What do you do when your best friend is in love with you?

I used to date this guy and i was head over heels for him. He really cared about me too but he just wasn't in the same place as I was and we ended on a really bad note. About 3 months after our fall out we started talking again and now it's been a year and we've become really close. He's honestly become one of my best friends, but he won't stop talking about how he wants me back. I tell him I'm no longer ready for that and I don't want that at this point of time, but he's been trying so hard and doing/sacraficing everything for me. Anyways, tonight he told me he was in love with me and that if I couldn't be with him then he couldn't bear to be friends with me anymore. I don't know what to do because I really don't want to lose him as a friend but at the same time I think that if I do try things with him, I'll just end up hurting him because I'm really not ready for this.What do you do when your best friend is in love with you?
He doesn't want to be your friend because he wants to be with you in a relationship relationship, and he doesn't think he can be involved in the circle where he can watch you date other guys, but not be able to do anything about it.





I think he should let go. If he's really a great guy, and he loves you very much, then he'll respect your wishes of not wanting to be with you.





Let him leave the friendship circle, because he'll probably want back in shortly, okay. After all, he says he's still in love with you...So, try it. See how it goes.





I hope it works out!What do you do when your best friend is in love with you?
If I were you, I would say to him: I'm not really ready for this, we're too young to date. I really hope we can be friends, heck, we can be as close as a brother and sister. But I'm... I'm just not ready. I promise you I'll have my answer... next year (LMFAO!!!)


-Jake
It's okay... :)








I know that you don't want to hear this.


But things like this usually don't end evenly or happily.


When it comes to love, and the other person doesn't have the same feelings, someone is going to get hurt. No matter what.





The reality is:


Sometimes love jeopardizes friendships. And there are some things that are really not meant to be-- including friendships. Some will last a lifetime. And some will last under a few years.





That doesn't mean it's your fault though.


It just means that you two should take a break from each other and let it all play out by itself until you feel comfortable enough to be friends again, or if you should stay away from each other for good.





He sounds like he's in love.


When your best friend is in love with you, and you don't feel the same way, you need to tell him that. And if he can't accept that, then you need to stay away from each other.





Sometimes that helps the pain to go away.
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You know you need to follow


your heart.


If its not right its not right.


And if he is throwing your friend ship a way


that should tell you something.
Don't toy with his emotions. If you like him enough, go back out with him.





I've liked one of my good friends for years, and I never had the balls to tell her. she's been through a few boyfriends and I hate that I've never told her that.





friendship is an important factor to a long-term romantic relationship. if you two are good friends and have feelings for each other, then what are you two waiting for??
I'm kinda in the same situation right now and to tell you the truth it is going to hurt him either way. It does suck when the girl you want is not interested especially if he is your best friend. If he can not accept the truth that it will not work then it probably is best if you just end the friendship now. I know what he's going through and it hurts a lot but I would rather have honesty than to keep living with a false hope. I hope that it works out for you and I wish I had better news.
You kind of answered the question yourself.


If you keep doing things with him, you are just hurting him.


Especially when you say things to him like you're not ready 'at this time'. This only keeps his hopes alive.


I'm sorry but in this particular circumstance, you can't have it both ways. Either you tell him you can't be close friends anymore, or start to date him again.
dont date him again, but dont loose your relationship with him either.


my best friends was in love with me, and still is has been for 4 years now, we play it off as friends but he feeling has never changed, now we harldy talk anymore and i feel bad i miss our relationship.=[
...there's nothing like ';friends'; with benefits !
Well.is it not hard to make a choice,i am a guy too ,u should reject him at 1st,don`t let him misunderstanding and got chance to hurt u..don`t easily believe in guy althought he is ur best frieds
well thats a hard one as a guy i know where he is coming from it can be painful and fun to be ur freind at the same time but he wants morwe he wants to try it again see if it works out i say give it a go for a day or so and if you dont like it then tell hi if he cant accept thatand wait then hes not inlove with you