Friday, August 20, 2010

Would You Borrow This Book From Your Friend?

';She remembered anything, even events that had not really happened. She lived longer than anyone ever had, and she had been dead long enough to distinguish between life and death. She was my best friend's soul, and the girl I had fallen in love with鈥?quot;





The year was 1763. I forced myself to forget all what Billy had said to me, it was not just the words, but the electricity that had passed through my veins when his hands shook mine in the morning, the gossips we had used to share in school, the pedestrians' bodies shape that curved into Billy's as I wandered down the avenue; any ';Good morning'; reminded me the smile that had spread across Billy's face as soon as he had said it. It was almost anything that made our old friendship even impossible to forget, but I had to, no matter how hard it would be. It had been a year since his funeral, but the days had passed so slowly that I would have counted it as an eternity. I wished he could get out of his coffin somehow and said it had been just a jest, but I shook my head, trying to ignore the idea, because if he had really been joking, he would have probably let me know about it. My father stared at me for a long minute as it began to rain; the drops trickled on my face that it looked as if I was crying. I noticed him approaching and moved aside as I already knew what he was going to say.





';Son, are you okay? He is just a friend, I am sure you will find another one. Come on鈥?quot;


I tried to read his face, but there was no expression on it, his eyes were so sharp and narrow like a hunter, he looked pretty happy about it that a smirk could be seen on the edge of his mouth, but his teeth were too tiny to notice. I raised my head to meet his dark eyes and said





';Just a friend? Billy was not just a friend; actually he was what you will never be!';





By the way, how is my English?Would You Borrow This Book From Your Friend?
I would read it but I am confused about the plot. Are they both guys? Is that quote about the guy who died? Is the main character gay, or does he just love his friend in a friendly way? Who is the girl in the quote? I would still read it. Great english, I thought it was an exert from a book. Hope I can read it some day. :)


XOXO,


morganneWould You Borrow This Book From Your Friend?
I don't know it sounds a little corny... but that's just me, I'm not really into those kind of books... great English though!
';Just a friend? Billy was not just a friend; actually he was what you will never be!' | this not make any sense to me; what was Billy? And what the heck this doesn't make any sense.. Who is who? Who is 'She' in the beginning? Are these two boys that are friends or a boy and a girl? They must be both boys because the Father said ';Son, are you okay?'; And the father was talking about Billy who was a boy.. All you ever say in this story is HE and you mention SHE once... this is very confusing!


I dont mean to be mean but I am just a person who likes to criticize and my teacher says I need to have a little more edge in my tone.

GLBT: What's your coming out story?

Well, first of all, I've been a guy all my life. It just took me some time to come to realize it. My first real recollection of expressing to anyone else my sexual orientation was in 4th grade. That was..hmm, let's see..1989. It didn't really go over well. I told my best friend, and by 5th grade, she was determined that she was going to find me a boyfriend. She asked EVERY guy in my class to 'go out' with me. They all said no. They said I was too much like ';one of the guys';. I first came out as what I thought was ';lesbian'; back in 1996. I was 16 and in high school. The only people I'd ever heard of or seen in the media that were female bodied, yet looked and acted very masculine, and liked girls were called butch lesbians. So that's what I thought *I* was too. Back then, things weren't ';horrible'; for GLBT people, but they certainly weren't like they are now. I grew up in a very conservative, redneck, ';white trash'; type environment in the midwest. Kids in my school were cruel. I was called dyke, bulldyke, carpet muncher, etc. I had kids put their fingers on their heads like horns and ';moo'; at me. I was pretty much ';voted out'; of gym class, because girls in my class were afraid I was going to molest them or something, I dunno...big egos I suppose, because I wanted none of them. They were all snooty bi*ches. But whatever. I was in theatre, and after practice other girls in my high school tried to run me over in the parking lot after practice. I had a lot of vindictive sh*t done to me by girls I played with on the softball team.





When I graduated high school, I got tired of the abuse, and decided I was going to learn how to stand up for myself. So I joined the Marine Corp. Yeah..when you tell someone you have military combat skills to know how to take down a 300 pound man with one hand, it tends to instill a little fear and intimidation in people. :D But in boot camp, there I saw OTHER very masculine females who had a ';I'm not taking sh*t off anyone'; type attitude. It was then that I started falling in love with butch women. Omg, they just make me MELT. But, after getting out of the military, and associating with the ';lesbian scene';, I started to come to realize that this label didn't describe me either. Something wasn't right. Something was missing. I still felt like something inside of me wasn't being exhibited or put out there for others to see just who and what I am.





At the age of 18, I started going through spells of serious depression. I was hospitalized in a psych ward 3 times for suicide attempts. I started to really examine my life and my inner being. It was then that I allowed my gender identity issues to surface, and I decided to face them, instead of thinking ';oh it's just a phase, it will go away'; and ignore it. I first verbalized my thoughts and feelings to my best guy friend, who supported me. He helped me find a therapist and everything.





I started seeing a therapist at the age of 19, but at that time it was only for the depression. By the age of 22, the therapy started to focus on my gender dysphoria. At the age of 22, I was diagnosed with GID (Gender Identity Disorder) and began transition. I started with just dressing, presenting, and living as male. By the age of 24, I started testosterone hormones. On my 25th birthday, I legally changed my name to Riley. Now I'm 29, and living 100% as male. I'm in college (a senior..graduate in December) majoring in medical technology, and living life the best way I know how, in a body that finally feels like 'home'. :-)





Sorry for the novel, but I came out twice. LOL. Please share your story.GLBT: What's your coming out story?
I haven't came out..and i dont think i ever will, bc most all my family is very religious and they all think im the perfect christian guy..i also sing in church and everyone thinks that god gave me this gift for a reason..and i'd like to use it for christian rock..so if i came out theyd all treat me like im an alien and wouldnt accept me..so im planning on changing by myself or trying something like being hypnotized (which my gpa did and it helped him to quit smoking and drinking for good) although id like to experience that a type gay relationship..i couldnt ever come out bc it wouldnt help me at all..jus alienate me...i hope that didnt depress anyone..im not trying to..lol..but i live with it everyday im sure it can't b too much for someone to read





and for the person above me..thats not lame..lol...thats good that they were proud of you..cuz they couldve disowned u..but instead they hugged uGLBT: What's your coming out story?
I have yet to come out.


End of story.





Hopefully this story takes off again this next year when I plan to come out.
';What? So it's wrong to touch my brother's penis? Only gay people do that? I'm a sick freak? Can I touch your penis, too?';
Wow. I don't have a coming out story. No one knows a lot about me, and I haven't labelled myself.
I never came out, I just told a bunch of people
ok Im confused, did you have a sex change at some point? I havent read the whole thing but you say you know youve been a guy your whole life (uhh yeah?) also how could you come out as a lesbian, if your a guy? how could you come out twice? idk im confused
Mine is laammmeee.





:)





My whole family, excluding my 8 year old sister, were visiting my Dad at his workplace, So I figured it would be a perfect time to tell them. We were about to get in the car to go home, and I said, ';Well, I have something important to tell you guys.'; They all looked at me, and I just said, ';I'm gay.'; They asked me if I was joking, I told them no, and I just started sobbing. My mom and dad came over and started hugging me, and told me they were proud of me for being able to tell them. Everything really took its course from there.





The end :D
I'm out, but I never came out. It's complicated, but I'll tell it.





OK, well to start I should probably say that I have always been in love with my best friend. One day about 9 months ago he stayed over my house like he often does. He was acting weird the whole night. A few hours in he chugged a few beers, then just flat out asked me if I was gay. I told him I was, but told him not to tell anybody, because I wasn't ready to come out.





Two months later him, one of our other friends, and I decided to hang out and get wasted one night. I got black-out drunk, didn't remember a bit of the night, and woke up in my bed (I usually don't sleep in my bed when more than one other friend is at my house.) When my friends woke up they decided to show me the videos that the friend I hadn't told had taken of the night before. There were nearly 2 hours of video showing me calling out to my best friend, telling my best friend I loved him, clinging on to my best friend while he was sitting/laying on the couch, and stuff like that. Within the week pretty much everyone I know saw the videos. I never needed to come out.
let's see my story goes..





It was one day in January when my mom picked me up from school. We had just gotten assigned our research papers which were going to be due in about two months. Our topic was in justice and intolerance in America. She gave us a list of topics that were good to write ours on. LGBT issues were on the list of topics and so i was going to pick that one because duh i'm gay. Well when i got into the car i told my mom about my day and stuff. I told her about my research paper and what i was going to do my topic on. I said something about gay issues. Then my mom was like oh really? and i was like yeah. She said then that she did a paper on gay adoption for her humanities class when she was going for her degree. So i thought oh ok. Then she was like why that topic? I was like because i am interested that stuff and because i am gay myself. (BAM I JUST DROPPED THE BOMBSHELL) i didn't even mean to say it. it just kinda slipped out. anyway. that was a majorly awkward car ride. and we talked about it and i cried on her arm the rest of the way home. When i got home i thought she was ok with it just shocked and i knew i would have to give it time to sink in. So the next three days went by and God was my stomach in knots and stuff. It was terrible. But then Friday came and it was just me and my mom at home. She called me into her room and then we e talked about me being gay. She said some hurtful things that i can't even believe she would say to me. And i was like crying so hard like it was unbearable having to hear that from your mom. I was angry at her and when we were over i went into my room and cried myself to sleep. That whole rest of the week and part of the next i cried. My mom then said me that she told my dad and i was like ok. They were like we are going to deal with this as a family. I was like its not a freakin disease. I am just gay its not a big deal. Then it was never really mentioned ever. And then long time passes and about two weeks ago i was in Gainsville for my brothers college orientation. It was night at the hotel me my mom and my dad were sitting by the pool at a table. and my brother was inside watching baseball. We started talking about future and stuff and one way or another we got into talking about jobs and stuff. Then my mom was like i just want you to be happy and successful and doing well and have all the nice things i know you like. And she was like i want you and your wife, Or your significant other who ever you fall in love with to be happy and a great life.





and then i felt a relief because that told me that my mom finally came to terms with it and has accepted me i think. I was so proud of her i just wanted to hug her and she is a great mom she really is. It just took her time to get used to it is all.





lol that was long =D but that's my coming out story.
To me coming out of the closet isn't a very accurate statement. It's more of a revolving door than a closet, always new people and new situations to come out to.





Personally, I figured things out as a freshmen in high school..came out to my best friend sophmore year.. and only a few select people for the rest of high school. My school wasn't the best place to be open, so I didn't fully ';come out'; until the summer following graduation. Told my closer friends personally, and everyone else figured it out through facebook and myspace when I changed my orientation.





I'm in college now and have since been open to everyone, if they ask. Came out to my mother over spring break. Extended family are the only ones who don't yet know.





Best of luck for those who have yet to come out, it's a lifelong process but you'll feel better once you take the first steps.
i have yet to haha. my friends know though. i just said it and they were like ';yeah we know'; :P
when school began in fall 2008, i got a new friend in my art class. we magically got placed next to each other, and we hit it off quickly. i told her two months later (in october) that i was bi. at first, she didn't believe me. then, she did... and she understood so well. maybe a little too well. i began to get feelings for her in the next few months. then in january this year, she came out to me and told me straight up that she likes me. she has ever since, and we're just taking it slow now. since that time, i've told my little brother, my dad, and all of my friends that are important to me.


each one understands and accepts completely.


(:
I figured out I was gay in a way most others didn't. I started watching porn at a young age I didn't understand what I was looking at so as years went on I looked at it again come to realize hey that guy is hot I saw a female and thought it was the grosses thing ever so yeah I got older I forced myself to like girl didn't work out so much I was scared and confused about how life worked I came out and wished I didn't come out but I did and faced the bad reactions not a good experince.
I first came out to one of my friends that i had feelings for in the beginning of 2007. I sent her an email, because i was too afraid to tell her face-to-face. She emailed me back saying that she doesn't care if i'm bisexual. She said that she understood my feelings for her, but she doesn't swing that way, but we can still be friends. After i came out to her, it took me two years to tell the rest of my friends. The reason that it took that long is because my friends aren't exactly ';gay friendly.'; So when i told my one friend an IM i was really scared. I sent her an IM purposely when she was offline. She didn't say anything about it for days. Then i brought it up and she admitted that she doesn't feel comfortable around gay people, but it's not that way for her when she's around me because she said that i'm one of her best friends. I didn't really tell my other friend on my own, even though i was planning to. She found out while i was in a conference on IM with her and my other friend who knew that i was bisexual. I had an icon up that said something about being bisexual. She pmed me and asked me about it. Then i told her and she said that she doesn't care, that we're friends and if i'm not straight, it's fine with her. I told my other friend through a note. I gave it to her and she didn't say anything for days. But then she gave me a note. The note said that she doesn't care, and she told me one of her secrets.





When i told my parents (my mom and uncle), it was scarey. I asked if i could talk to them both, so we were in the kitchen. I kept delaying it, but then my uncle said to hurry up and tell them. I took a deep breath and explained to them that i also like girls. My mom started to cry and my uncle just laughed. He said that i was too young to know. My mom stopped her crying and agreed with him. They now think that it's a phase, which it isn't. They both make very homophobic comments around me more than before, which i do not appreciate.








sorry if this is too long lol

Find out what your birthday actually means??? o_0?

Okay so combine all these to make a sentence....





Pick the number of the month you where born





%26gt;1----I fell in love with


%26gt;2----I ate


%26gt;3----I smacked


%26gt;4----I sang to


%26gt;5----I gave my number to


%26gt;6----I murdered


%26gt;7----I shot


%26gt;8----I danced with


%26gt;9----I choked on


%26gt;10---I went out with


%26gt;11---I kicked


%26gt;12---I hugged








Pick the day (number) you were born on:





%26gt;1-------A homeless guy


%26gt;2-------your crush


%26gt;3-------a banana


%26gt;4-------a fork


%26gt;5-------a super hero


%26gt;6-------a gangster


%26gt;7-------a ninja


%26gt;8-------an ipod


%26gt;9-------my best friend


%26gt;10-------a bystander


%26gt;11-------my dog


%26gt;12-------my girlfriend


%26gt;13-------the computer


%26gt;14-------a football player


%26gt;15-------my neighbor


%26gt;16-------myself


%26gt;17-------a soda


%26gt;18-------a man


%26gt;19-------a pickle


%26gt;20-------a stuffed animal


%26gt;21-------a weirdo


%26gt;22-------a sock


%26gt; 23-------a tissue


%26gt;24-------my pshyciatrist


%26gt;25-------a policeman


%26gt;26-------my brother


%26gt;27-------my sister


%26gt;28-------a baseball bat


%26gt;29-------a dvd player


%26gt;30-------my best friends brother


%26gt;31-------my cell phone


%26gt;


Pick the color of shirt you are wearing:





%26gt;White------Because I was angry.


%26gt;Black-------Because I was drunk.


%26gt;Brown-------Because your mom told me to.


%26gt; Pink--------Because I'm retarded.


%26gt;Red---------Because the voices told me to.


%26gt;Blue--------Because Im hot and I do what I want.


%26gt;Green------Because I hate myself.


%26gt;Purple------Because I'm stupid.


%26gt;Gray--------Because that's how I like.


%26gt;Yellow------Because someone offered me 1,000,000 dollars.


%26gt;Orange----Because I love my family.


%26gt;Other-------Because that's what I do.





Haha this is what I got...


I kicked a super hero because the voices told me too.





What did you get?? :0Find out what your birthday actually means??? o_0?
I fell in love with my cell phone because I hate myself.Find out what your birthday actually means??? o_0?
I fell in love with a policeman because I was drunk
I shot a dvd player because I'm stupid
i ate a weirdo because that's how i like
I went out with a football player because the voices told me to.
i went out with a sock because i was drunk
I murdered my girlfriend because I was drunk %26gt;.%26lt;
I kicked a ninja because the voices told me to.
That is so cool.
I ate.....a homeless guy.....because I was angry???
i danced with my best friend because thats what i do.
I ate my brother because I love my family


O_O wow

What am I to do stuck between hubby and best friend?

Okay here is the deal I am married have been for two years in September. His best friend that I have been friends with way before we got married just told me the other night that he has fallen in love with me he recently just went through a divorce with his ex. And he was telling me how he feels and everything I kept telling him hey look I am happily married to your best friends James and I honor my vows and there is no way I am leaving him for you that is just wrong. Well he made me promise not to tell anyone way before he told me he fell in love with me. But my husband is the type were he will go out and just whip his *** and be done with it and go to jail for a night or two. But I cant have that cause we have two small kids to take care of and a third one on the way. I want to tell my husband but he is so hot headed like his dad I dont have a clue what to do. Here recently he has been wanting to go over to his friends house and hang out more and more but I cant be in the same room with him without feeling bad or guilty or anything cause I knwo something I can't tell me husband. What do I do I mean he knows I am happily married to james and he knows I wont leave but since he told me that our friendship hasnt been the same what should I do??What am I to do stuck between hubby and best friend?
U have done the right decision, u r a responsible person, but don't tell your husband, forget it, there could be misunderstanding and fight for nothing.


Don't feel bad or guilty, u have not had sex,


just feelings, be happy that one more nice person loves u because u r a nice person, but keep it on a platonic level.What am I to do stuck between hubby and best friend?
Tell him he has put you in a bad position and for him to back away from you husband or it will leave you with no choice but to tell him because you are uncomfortable around him and prefer not to see him.
Sounds like you need a new friend. You have done nothing wrong. Don't tell your husband. It will somehow be your fault.
Tell him sorry you are married

My best friend really did that!?

so this is how it goes... i had a girlfriend and she was great, i also had a best friend and he was all a friend could ever ask for. but him and her didnt see eye to eye and they both hated each other. so as the months went by it only got worse. my and him have been thur everything. and me and her just fell in love. so i had to make a decision. i choose my bestfriend over the girl. so a lil later i go on vaction back home. during it i get a call. its her she tells me she did something horrible. so i call my bestfriend to find out what happend. he starts crying. then tells me i got with your X. i couldnt handle it. i sacerficed my world for this guy that i thought i knew. he got her drunk and mulipianted her mind. telling her how bad of a guy is was. i couldnt beleive this. i was betrayed and i dont know how to handle this. she should have never hung out with him and he should have known to say away from her! he knew i still loved her. did i make the wrong decision pickin him over her?My best friend really did that!?
wow. thats definitely a messed up situation your now in. in my opinion, you dont need either one of them. both of them betrayed your trust! especially after you picked your bestfriend over her. then he went and did this to you. thats ridiculous. obvioulsy they didnt hate each other after all. If i were you, id ditch them both. no point in being friends with someone you can't trust. At least now you know what both of them are all about. Move on, you have bigger fish to fry and these to are definitely not worth your time!My best friend really did that!?
you are ALWAYS supposed to pick friends oh girl firend or boy friends unless the relation ship is SEIROUS


so i think you should have picked him, unless you knew this was goign to happen.


i would tyr to pick neither because they wouldnt be good friends to make you pick like that,
I am sorry to say this, but this is life. Betrayal is a hard lesson to learn. My cousin's best friend and her boyfriend hooked up because of letting them get too close and trusting in them. This is life, don't forgive your best friend or your ex. Move on from both of them!
Fixing what i said before.


caus i sounded like an idoit


true friends are better


besides


there are alot of people who are going to come in and out of your life
yess he's a dooooshe.
i feel u made the right decision....girlfriends/boyfriends come ago...truee friendship lasts for ever if its tru....u are not the one who messed up...u did the right thing...the same thing i would have done....its obvious he was not a true friend...friends don't do that....an she was a skanky hoe to come in between a friendship like that....just think if she did that to you she will do the same thing to him cuz shes a hoe....i know u loved her but maybe u were to good for her...and really to good to have a friend like that
Real friends and real girlfriends don't make you choose between them. If they are real friends and real girlfriends they are mature enough to be friends with you and agree to disagree with each other. There is no law that says your best friend should totally love your girlfriend, nor is there one that states your girlfriend must adore all of your friends. When you get into relationships you should expect that you'll have friends that your gf isn't crazy about--and maybe this just means you hang out with them when she's gone--by mutual agreement, of course. And a real friend supports your choices in your girlfriend even if they don't agree--because they care about you. If they are truly a wonderful friend they'll let you know if they see ';red flags'; and then shut-up so you can make your own decision. And then if it does turn into a fire-ball--they are there for you and don't bother to say ';I told you so';. they let you say it. So, next time, don't be an idiot and let anyone ';make'; you choose between them. Tell them to grow up and deal with what you are doing or move on.

Am i the only one a love like this has ever happened to?

Am i the only one a love like this has ever happened to?





im in love,


not your ordinary boy/girl relationship type love,


but girl/girl relationship.


i guess you can say ';lesbian'; type relationship.


thing is my best friend %26amp; i, damn we fell massively in love with each other


never in my 17 years of life would i ever come to imagine fallin in love with my best friend, i mean i would if it were a boy yehknow? but a girl, never that. ever since we met i've had this thing for her, shoot we've been throughout it all, smokin out, skippin school, the drama with both our rents, jealousy cause of who im talkin with or who shes talkin with, fuss %26amp; fights with each other, you name it. we've been through it. sunshine %26amp; rain. i was too afraid to tell her how i deeply felt, i mean she got me caught up like WHOAH! i practically had dreams of us being together, and now i do believe in that one cliche ';dreams do come true';. See it all started with a kiss. she kissed me and from there our love towards each other grew tremendously. i meanno onee has ever made me feel the way she does, I WANNA MARRY HER! spiritually we are married, she told me. she gave me a ring, and so did i. nobody knows about us. we get along with mostly everybody at school, we're inseparablee. to them we're just your typical BFF'S. So anyways, i've been in several relationships before but with dudes. so has she. im not in one at the moment i've called it off with the boy i was talkin too, and have put some boys that were tryna get to me aside, cause of her. she is in one though, but she says she loves me, which i do trust her. but i don't really know if i do. and i feel really bad. also her parents are really into church their christians and their against homosexuals. i really don't know what to do i love her with everything i got. she is the one. with her i feel perfected. im just afraid to get hurt. i could give a fuckless about what people would come out to say about us, but then again those people are her parents, my parents, our families %26amp; friends. and we'll ashame em. i care for her care, if that makes any sense. what should i do?Am i the only one a love like this has ever happened to?
that is a really tough situation! On one hand, you both want to be together, but on the other hand you will probably face ridicule and her parents would be really angry with both of you. And you are at the age where feelings are really intense and yet you still have to live under your parents' rules.





The only thing I can give advice on is that if you two really want to be in a relationship with each other (even if you don't tell anyone else about it) she should not be dating anyone else, guy or girl. Otherwise, she is not as serious about you as you are about her. She should not want to be with anyone else.





As far as your sexuality, I wouldn't worry about that right now. It doesn't matter whether you are gay or straight or bisexual, you will work that out in time. What matters is that you want to have a relationship with her and make it work. That means being faithful and honest with each other. And as far as her parents go, if they are not going to be supportive, as far as I'm concerned it is none of their business.Am i the only one a love like this has ever happened to?
EWW!!!!
2 points thanks!
your/her parents are stupid and closed minded. If you love this girl then marry her, and if your parents love you, they will accept your choice, especially if you're hot, because hot lesbians are awesome! But seriously, you will regret not acting up what appears to be your sincere love. It's nothing to be ashamed of and you've done nothing wrong. If they don't accept who you are, then why bother with them, unless they're supporting you financially, then wait a few years until you are no longer dependent upon them.
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  • What to do stuck between husband and his best friend?

    Okay here is the deal I am married have been for two years in September. His best friend that I have been friends with way before we got married just told me the other night that he has fallen in love with me he recently just went through a divorce with his ex. And he was telling me how he feels and everything I kept telling him hey look I am happily married to your best friends James and I honor my vows and there is no way I am leaving him for you that is just wrong. Well he made me promise not to tell anyone way before he told me he fell in love with me. But my husband is the type were he will go out and just whip his *** and be done with it and go to jail for a night or two. But I cant have that cause we have two small kids to take care of and a third one on the way. I want to tell my husband but he is so hot headed like his dad I dont have a clue what to do. Here recently he has been wanting to go over to his friends house and hang out more and more but I cant be in the same room with him without feeling bad or guilty or anything cause I knwo something I can't tell me husband. What do I do I mean he knows I am happily married to james and he knows I wont leave but since he told me that our friendship hasnt been the same what should I do??What to do stuck between husband and his best friend?
    your between a rock and a hard place. you need to create distance from this friend. he is a home wrecker and not a friend to you or your husband. Getting in a relationship with this man will not, on any terms, heal your relationship with your husband. because of your kids and your marriage you need to focus on that. do your hair, put on make up. spice things up a bit. marriage is something both of you need to work on to last. talk to your husband tell him your worried about your relationship with him. have date nights. don't let your marriage slide through your fingers. get your man baby. good luck and I hope this helps. peace out!What to do stuck between husband and his best friend?
    Tell him he needs to know the guy he thinks is his friend is tring to take his wife.I know i would go crazy if my wife didn't tell me then i found out. Seems like your thinking about it or something if u don't tell him.
    Either tell your hubby and have the problem be settled now or act like it never happened.
    Tell your housband that since you are having another child you should move (so that you will be away from this guy who has fallen for you) That way you get a new house. More room. And you are away from the guy who has fallen for you. that way you dont have to see him around the niehgobrhood or anything. It would be easier to keep the secret from you housband. I know you think the right thing to do would be to tell your housband.....but think you swore with your best friend.

    Does anyone have any stories of forbidden love or love in general they'd like to share?

    Not just the typical ';I'm in love with my best friend's husband,'; but it could be ';I'm in love with my best friend's sister, I fell in love with my boss/professor/client, etc.'; also. What was the first kiss/most passionate moment(s) like, and how did it turn out in the end? Was it worth it? Was it the worst mistake of your life? If you could turn back time and re-live the moment when you were faced with the choice of going for it, or letting it go, would you still do it, or would you walk away?Does anyone have any stories of forbidden love or love in general they'd like to share?
    You want some really juicy stories about forbidden love? Email me, I'll have you wetter than a whistle with some of these tales.Does anyone have any stories of forbidden love or love in general they'd like to share?
    I fell in love with another woman on my soccer team. I left my husband for her and if I had the choice, I would never have done it. I was married for 12 years (high school sweethearts) she is wonderful to me, but I miss my husband. So many memories, they bury you. Its been 1 year already and if I could turn back the clock, I would have done things alot differently. I would not have been so hasty in walking out on my marriage that I thought was going stale... How's that for forbidden love?????

    How to ignore a guy who was your best friend and who knew you liked him but he didn't feel the same!Heellllpp!?

    We dated 2 years ago..for 2 months and I fell really hard for him!


    We broke up coz of really stupid misunderstandings so please don't say that he is an ex for a reason!


    He has had 2 girlfriends after me (he faked going out with the 1st one but he has been with the 2nd since 1 year)


    He understood I liked him when I ignored him and he forced me to admit it and when I did..he told me to move on and said he loved me as a friend.


    I've been getting mad at him lately for no apparent reasons.Its just that I get frustrated at times coz I feel he does somethings intentionally to hurt me(Im not sure about it) I've talked to him about it and he told me to change him but he acts like an ******* sometimes.


    So I've started ignoring him but I feel sad coz we were BESSST FRIENDS and we have a really good bonding.He tries to talk but I need to move on..


    What should I do? I'm confused! Thanks in advance and dont be rude! :)How to ignore a guy who was your best friend and who knew you liked him but he didn't feel the same!Heellllpp!?
    screw the perfessional help!


    no offence Ricky^^





    okay, but he is right, its been two years girl!


    you have got find a way to get over him.


    i know its hard cuz you guys used to be really close.


    its hard for him too if hes taking glances at you


    i guess he misses you but hes trying to move on


    and you should too


    if you guys are meant to be friends then maybe later in time you guys will start talking again


    i believe that there are people being meant to be friends


    sometimes couples, but if thats true with you guys, then you guys cant be together now


    i also believe that certain times people cant be together


    but dont get your hopes up, it may just dissapoint you later


    its his fault though, for making things this way


    well, i dont know the whole missunderstanding, but it must have been bad.


    its both your faults


    your fault for missunderstanding to happen, but his fault for not listening and hearing the real story


    god, people are so stupid these days!!!


    anyway, still obsessing?


    well, i honestly dont think you should get perfessional help


    i mean, come on! we all can control ourselves, its just hard for some of us, but we can find our own ways to get over things. people just have to work harder at finding that out


    and thats what you need to do


    just move on, or at least make it seem like you have


    examples:


    1.when you see him in the hall, take a deep breath(hold it if you have to) stare straight ahead(not at him) and walk right past and focus on where your going


    2.in private, think about the good times only you had with him and cry it all off. its like talking to someone and getting something off your chest, showing that you can cry all that hurt and anger and sadness right out. its not good to hold it in.


    3.if he glances at you class again, just force your ears and eyes to pay attention to the teacher or your work or on another conversation going on next to you. if he sits in front of you, tell your teacher you want to move up front so you dont really have to deal with seeing him look at you. if you feel his eyes on you, take a deep breath and think about something else.


    4.when you get home, find your confort zone. all the time, just dig it up and hold on to it and keep it close to you and feel better.


    5.at school, if you need to drown things out, if you have an ipod, slip them on, put the music up as high as you want to drown things out(but dont hurt your ears) and just walk, focusing on the music.


    6.you ca read a book too. if its too hard, dont read any romance. period. just read action or something. same thing with watching tv


    7.go out with all your friends and do a bunch of crazy stuff. like girls gone wild(not really like that!) lol but you know what i mean, just hang out and focus on how great your friends are, how happy they make you feel. you need him, no one needs a guy. you can be you and live your life without the worries of that boy. you can move on. but only if you believe you can. no doubts, its all about you.


    hope i helped and good luck!


    :DDHow to ignore a guy who was your best friend and who knew you liked him but he didn't feel the same!Heellllpp!?
    Well Babe, you have the makings of a great soap opera going on here. But honestly, it's been two years ago. And you're still obsessing over it!





    Professional help may be your only remedy here. Find someone else %26amp; move on. Surely there must somebody out there willing to put up with you %26amp; your neurosis?

    If your first true love has broke your heart,how do you forget about her & have your revenge ?

    i fell in love for real for the first time with my best friend,she felt it but she just continued to break my heart again and again till i've had it.


    she told me that she loves another person eventhough he's married and he has a child.


    and that she'll love him forever no matter what.....


    i decided to leave her but you can't imagine how hard it is.


    after i left her she started to hang out with alot of different guys without taking my feelings in her considerations.


    what should i do to forget about her and to remove her from my life


    we used to be soooo close we used to see each other everyday and talk for several hours on the phone everyday...


    and how can i have my revenge ????????


    by the way i couldn't sleep for a whole month......If your first true love has broke your heart,how do you forget about her %26amp; have your revenge ?
    well its her life and she is just doing what she wants and you should be supportive of that even if it hurts you to see her with others ... and if you ever truly loved her revenge is not what you should do ... but if you must do revenge watch her very carefully with that other guy who is married and if it seems even close that something is happening between them then tell the guys wife she will probably divorce him and take his child away causing him great emotional distress and thus causing it to her since she loves him.If your first true love has broke your heart,how do you forget about her %26amp; have your revenge ?
    OK


    1.) find another girlfriend and go with her somewhere were she would be.


    2.) get over it that life trust me when you find another girlfriend you will forget about her.


    3.) the only revenge i can think of is get a guy to call that guy shes going out with and act like she cheated on him. she will deserve it
    Date the woman she was jealous of or hated the most....
    I know how you feel, and just about everyone faces this problem at some point. you dont need to get revenge on her, even though she might not have been understanding about the whole breakup. do your part as an ex. i know it sounds kind of weird, but you need to try to understand her. feelings change. i know that is next to impossible to except, but its true sometimes. BUT, that doesn't mean that feelings cant ever come back. i honestly dont know what is going to happen. and neither do u. so, dont get your hopes up. i know it sounds horrible, but its true. u dont want to be even more heart broken then u already are. there could be more to this breakup then u think. sometimes people can be heartless and cold. its all part of going thru life. but remember: if it doesn't work out with her, she isn't the right one. keep trying :)
    forget revenge. it creats an unhealthy obsession and it just harbors negative feelings. plus you'll still feel heartbroken if you get revenge. but then you'll have guilt on top of a broken heart. not a good combo. my suggestion would be to get rid of everything that reminds you of the bad times. then go out and start hanging out with new people. fill up your schedule. keep yourself busy and try not to think about her or obsess over her. if you cant sleep, see someone that can perscribe sleeping meds.

    Unrequited love - Getting over someone who is your BF? (Also in Dating/singles)?

    I am having a hard time because I am in love with my Best friend, who wants to just remain best friends with me. He said that although he loved me, he wasnt in love with me. He thought we were going to be together forever. He also says that its not cos Im not attractive or anything, because he thinks I am attractive but he says I am too high maintainance and although he puts up with it all the time, if we were going out he'd have no life of his own.





    I can understand this, but then he says although he is happy on his own, that one day he may be open to having a relationship, as long as I know it will never be with me.





    The thing is that I just can't stand being around him because I love him entirely. I know that if he ever got a partner I would be heartbroken, hell I am already heartbroken.





    He also said he never wanted to lose me, another reason for not going out but actually we have argued about the whole thing so much, basically cos I feel really ashamed and humiliated at even falling for him so consequentially we arn't even talking properly and we both agree we don't know where to go from here.





    I know this is all my fault but I don't know what to do. Can you really stay that close with someone when you know deep down that he will probably end up being with someone else and also how do you get rid of these horrible feelings (especially when we are still close) cos at the moment I never even want to hear the word Love ever again cos I just can't shake these feelings that I must be unloveable.





    Any help gratefully accepted.Unrequited love - Getting over someone who is your BF? (Also in Dating/singles)?
    He's acting really cruel if you ask me. You need someone better than that. If he finds someone else just remember the way he treated you and he's going to treat that person the exact same way. But please, don't find someone else until you're completely over him and trying to make him jealous never helps anything.Unrequited love - Getting over someone who is your BF? (Also in Dating/singles)?
    wow im sorry this is a really difficult situation ur in but if this guy just doesnt want to be in a relation ship w u bcuz he doesnt want to ruin ur friendship, u have to tell him that its worth the risk u never no until u try and if u dnt end up together just remember that everything happens for a reason and maybe god doesnt want u to be with this guy

    I think I'm falling for my best friend...?

    For starters, we're both 15 and we have known each other for 4-5 years. In the beginning, I was all ';...'; towards being his friend, because I thought he was really weird. But over time I have grown out of that impression and now the only thing I ever do anymore is think about him. We used to go to the same school but recently I've been transferred (we're still in the same area though). He's the only one from my old school that I have any contact with. I usually sit in school waiting for the dismissal bell to go off so I can rush home and talk to him (via computer). And lately, I've been thinking about what I enjoy about him. From his smile and laugh to the fact that he's one of the only people that I feel 100% comfortable being around.





    From his actions towards me, he SEEMS to take a slight interest but I'm not going to assume anything. He says that of all of his best friends, I'm #1, and it shows. I see the way he acts towards some of his other friends who are girls and then I see the way he acts around me...as if I'm his. He gets frustrated with me whenever I put myself down and when we're out some where, he walks steadily close to me. And randomly, he'll say ';I love you';. But I can't help but wonder if he's saying that because we're best friends or if there's any more meaning to it.





    When he talks about how he had so much fun with one of the girls at my old school, I get a slight tick of jealousy. Likewise with him, if I talk about ANY guy that I like, he'll start saying ';Ew, he's ugly'; and act as if I'm too good for them.





    I'm more than confused right now and I have absolutely NO idea if I should confront him about how I feel since...I have a really bad connection when it comes to talk about my feelings to the person I have feelings for. Sorry for the long story, but this is putting a strain on my right now, any advice? Or, what is your opinion on everything?





    And yes, I'm aware that 15 is a VERY early age to be considered ';in love';, so please don't re-inform me about something that I'm already well aware of. No rude responses please :x





    Thnx ^^I think I'm falling for my best friend...?
    ok well im going thru the same thing, so i know what u r going thru. i really like her and she likes me. ive known her my whole life and never really talked to her until last year. NOW SHE IS LIKE MY BFFL. so ya umm just ask him out or to come overI think I'm falling for my best friend...?
    I can tell from the info you left that you 2 truly have genuine feelings for each other. I know you probably don't want to hear it, but the best thing to do is talk to him about it. If you're nervous about spilling your guts, I find it easier to write things down and let the person read it than to physically talk to the person. You're right, 15 is an early age to be considered in love, but I fell in love with my now husband at 17 and he was my best friend too. In fact, he was also the first person I ever dated. From what you said, it sounds like he likes you the same way that you like him. It also sounds like he would be good for you as far as guys go. Just don't rush into anything or do anything irrational and you should be fine. Remember, you can't change the past; and you certainly don't want to lose your closest friend. Good luck!
    OMG i am in the same situation. this sounds excatually like me. just tell him because u said you're 100% comfortable around him so you'll have no problem telling him ur fellings right? Just give it a shot and hope for the bset thing to happen. Good Luck!!
    I think you two like each other and are too scared to admit it. If you're like me and not comfortable asking him straight up whether he does have feelings for you, watch his body language, and *gradually* drop hints. Eventually he will get the message. If you ask him to go somewhere with you, and he takes up on it, you've got your answer.





    Can you answer mine? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>


    Thanks.
    typical best friend relationship between the opposite sex.


    tell him you like him, explain your feelings


    ask for his feelings then work it out.


    you obviously have the teenage love sydrome


    so as for the questoin if you are falling for him? ohyeah.
    ok..i have this friend..and he moved away..but before he did. i was his best friend and he would always say he loved me. he would always tell people taht i was his best friend and to back off.


    he did this even though he knew i liked him. he would hang out with me. go places with me. help me with things. and he knew i liked him because i told him. it didnt affect us at all. after i had told him he was like..WAIT you DO?! im like.yeh. and he walked away..then after the next class he came back and just went ';wuts up?';


    you see..i figured out..that if they are your bestfriend and they say they love you. and they say that your their best friend. it wont really bother them.


    but the only reason i told him was because i thought i just should.


    SO to get to the point! (sorry bout the story! lol)


    Do What You Think Is Right. but if you tell him...say it and then move on. pretend you never said it..like..if you go to the mall or whatever if you go somewhere. say it when you think might be the right time. but DO NOT make it sappy.


    good luck...and sorry i wrote so much!! lol


    i hope i helped!

    I'm falling for my best friend's girl, and she's sending me mixed messages, help me read them?

    Apolagies about the length, I figure the best way to capture my questions were to capture the entire story in detail.


    When nessecary, I will refer to my best friend as 'the guy' and his girlfriend as 'the girl'.


    The situation I describe is as follows;





    I have feelings for my my best friend's girlfriend, and I am almost certain she reciprocates these feelings. She's gorgeous, intelligent and we have a similar sense of humour. She's embodies the word 'amazing'.





    Eleventh Grade (sophomore year) started three weeks ago in Australia, I had been spending alot of time with The Guy previous to the start of school, so naturally I sat with him during the lunch times. He often spoke with adoration of The Girl, but I hardley expected her to be as she was. Seemingly out of The Guy's league.





    He dresses in a slumly manner, ripped and torn track pants and faded tee-shirts. He has a kind face though, a trustworthy face. She dresses with style and pseudo-class, high waisted skirts, floral print dresses, all designer. Naturally.





    A couple of weeks went by. By the second week of our relationship, me and The Girl had grown frighteningly closer and had developed our own in-jokes and an entirely unique brand of witticisms. She entrusted me with several secrets of hers, some were rather petty, but others would have taken great amounts of courage to produce.





    By the end of the third week of our relationship, this week, she had confessed things to me that she had only told her boyfriend. She told me that it was easier to talk to me about these things, than it was to talk to The Guy.





    On the Friday of this week (today is Sunday), the three of us, The Girl, The Guy and I attended a house party. We went as a group, but The Guy spent most of the time wrestling around with some old acquaintances. The Girl seemed anxious about something the entire night. She didnt seem to be having as much fun as would be expected from a girl by her description. It was getting close to midnight, by this time we had exchanged several long glances, smiles. She approached me, took my arm and asked me if I wanted to go for a walk, I eagerly accepted her invitation.





    We didnt wander far from the house, after 5 minutes of walking we found a pleasant patch of dry grass to sit down on. She has this adorable face that she subconsciously puts on when she's talking about something serious. Without looking into my eyes, she told me that she couldnt stop thinking about me, and that I had been in her thoughts alot lately. She talked about how I was so easy to talk to compared to The Guy. Shortly after she gauged my shock-awe reaction, she looked at me quizzically and said; 'it's not like I have a crush on you or anything'. She then went on to ask me if I had feelings for anyone at our school, I gave her an indirect answer.





    The following day we showered at the house and then made our way to another of our friend's houses, as I had previously mentioned that I didnt want to return home until atleast Sunday. We spent most of the day smoking marijuana and drinking pre-mixed vodka, just the four of us. We were running short on cigarettes, so The Girl suggested that we shared one. We went outside and started another meaningful conversation. This one far more comical than the last. Eventually the conversation turned onto her unwillingness to compliment males outside of her relationship.





    Before I could take another draw of my cigarette, she started to had unleash wave after wave of complimentary statements such as; 'Your hair is great. I love your style, your persona. I love the way you carry yourself, I love the way you manage to be so easy to talk to.' She then asked me what I thought about her. If there was a perfect opportunity to tell her about my feelings, it was then and there. I tried to put my feelings into words, but I struggled to make a sentance. In a matter of seconds I had realised that it was a futile attempt. So I settled with; 'If I were you, I'd try to achieve a lower bodyfat percentage.' Of course I did not mean what I said, she has a gorgeous figure. Before I even realised what I had done, she burst into tears. She avoided conversation with me for the rest of the day.





    I am unsure of several of the things she has done. This is the first time I've felt like this about a girl since I was in the seventh grade. Sleeping with them once and never speaking to them again, is my approach to women. These are almost entirely new feelings for me and I dont know how to deal with them.





    I am still uncertain if she has feelings for me or not.


    Does she like me?


    What actions should I take?I'm falling for my best friend's girl, and she's sending me mixed messages, help me read them?
    get over it dude, she is not meant to be yours.I'm falling for my best friend's girl, and she's sending me mixed messages, help me read them?
    1) Girls will have no idea what they want in terms of males until they are at the very least 22 yrs old...





    2) She probably likes you and your best friend and other guys.. Again she has no idea what she wants for long term.





    3) I am not saying that it is impossible, just highly unlikely that it will last.. So ask yourself, ';Do you value your 'best friends' friendship more than a chance to be with a girl that most likely will not last due to females inability to know the future and what they want?'; or do you not care about your relationship with your friend.





    Bro's before Ho's is universal man-code





    You are treading thin ice in regards to overstepping your boundaries of friendship with your mate. If you do not care about that relationship, then go for it, but nothing is ever certain..





    In fact if you ignore her, she will want you more... Sigh, high school girls are so predictable.





    Answer is NO, if you value your friendship with your mate, don't even think about it... If you would sacrifice that for a brief dating period with this girl, then go for it!! Choice is yours.
    put it in her backdoor. A true friend would understand.
    Amazing, simply brilliant, slug it out
    Whoah I dont even have to read this essay length question to say....





    you have put waaaay to much though into this....





    the fact is that if a girl likeyl you...its very clear and day
    Wow, to long dude, didn't read. But never cheat on a mates girlfriend and if she's sending you messages, tell you're mate what she's doing or call her a s**t so she stops talking to you.
    yeah im pretty sure she likes u since she complimented u alot, but its good u told her off like that because shes ur best friends girl and the best thing to do would be to back off...


    u probably have more intense feelings for her cuz of the chase, and like cuz u cant have her, and because its wrong. at least, thats what i think. i always am in that position lol.


    shes just a girl... there will be more, its the friends that really matter...relationships come and go, true friends stay...i learned that the hard way.


    plus, if she leaves ur best friend for u, and u two break up, then what? then u lost ur best friend and the girl.


    id just say, dont do anything you think ull regret later.
    Trust me, from experience.


    Relationships are hard, its obvious this girl and the guy are having issues, if she is spending too much time with you instead of her guy, you are both heading down the wrong path.





    Think of your best and worst case scenario,


    Is it worth losing your best mate over a girl? I think not.


    And starting a relationship, whilst still being involved never ever ends well, you never gain the trust of the other partner because you were being dishonest in the first place.





    In answer to your question, yes she may have feelings for you, but she is still with 'the guy' so I can't say that they would mean much.





    I say support your mate and put her to the back of your mind, there are plenty of fish in the sea as they say, and the right one will come around eventually,


    At least you know you are capable of having feelings for someone other than just sex.





    Be happy and enjoy life, worry less love more.





    I thought a long question deserved my long answer/thoughts.


    Hope I helped a little.
    Dude keep away from her .. She is ur best friends ladie . U already Noe that that's a golden rule .. U don't go the homies ladie.. Just go fr sum other girl even though ur not gonna want too.. But if u try too go or her ur gonna get In gifts and end up loseing a friend anyway she might be just messing with u ... If I were u I would just back up an not mess with her

    I have a boyfriend that i really really like, but secretly have feelings for my best friend that is a girl.?

    I have a really really difficult situation, and its tearing up my heart. I'm a very very strong christian girl you see... And I have a boyfriend that i have been going out with for a while now. I really really do like him, but i have mixed emotions. I don't see myself with him truthfully... I don't feel it strongly. But I am secretly in love with my best friend. I have been for years, but she never new. For the past year I ignored it, and stood in denial. But every time i think of being with her my heart just melts... and.. its just a love I cannot explain.. I don't know what to do... I don't want to be a lesbian... Cause it hurts spiritually, but its sooo hard to change how I feel for her. I know in her past she said she was bisexual... i don't want to bring her down into her old ways... like I have fallen. (no offense to those who are FOR gay marriage) Though is there any advise? Has life thrown this situation at you before? That you may have wisdom to tell me how I can take care of this issue? Thank you for your time. =\I have a boyfriend that i really really like, but secretly have feelings for my best friend that is a girl.?
    Follow your heart! This is how you were born, it has nothing to do with spiritually. Please don't feel like you are living a lie because you are a lesbian. Being a christian and being lesbian does not mean that you are not a child of God. Churches who preach again gay marriage or being bisexual are out dated and use fear as a basis for their existence.





    Address the issue as it exists. You will be happier for it. Gay women have many straight friends, male and female.





    I have a gay daughter and she lived with the same thoughts that you have now. I suspected that she was gay and discussed it with her and advised her to be who she is. She has a life partner now and is very happy. It will be difficult to be honest with your parents, but if they love you today, they will love you tomorrow for who you are.





    You do not become a lesbian, you do not become a lesbian because you want to, you are a lesbian at birth. Play the cards that you have been dealt. Hey, I know many gay people and I love them all. Personally, I am not gay. It does not make me any better or worse than anyone else in the world.





    Good luck, enjoy your life.





    I love you.





    I have a boyfriend that i really really like, but secretly have feelings for my best friend that is a girl.?
    That is SO HOT! Invite the two of them at the same time, no one will be more pleased than the boyfriend and you can rationalise it by saying it was okay because the guy was there and you just wanted to please him. Please send video/photo footage so we can give better advice lol.
    Yeah, that must suck; your own religion considers you an abomination.





    There's nothing much you can do. Well, besides convert to atheism (because we atheists don't tend to be so intolerant), but I doubt you'd be keen on that.
    this is very difficult
    ditch the religion and date the girl.
    It's not a matter of wanting to be. If you were straight do you think you could say, I want to be gay and you'd be gay. God made you who and what you are, and he doesn't make mistakes. At the end of your life, you will answer to God about how you have lived; not to any preachers, or even family. God is more concerned about how you are treating people, and what you are doing or not doing to help people, and if you love God and your neighbor, than what you are doing sexually. Do you thing he cares what you are wanting for a snack- a cookie or a potato chip? I don't think he's too worried about what you want sexually either.
    wow. Dude. I am a christian too [mormon lds] my best advice is: DO NOT take action, with your friend. Seriously, keep the commandments!





    If you dont feel right with your current boyfriend, leave him. There is another boy out there for you. Just because he isnt working out, it doesnt mean you have to switch genders.





    Plus, I am against Gay Marriage. I find it disgusting and repulsive. Do not mess up your friendship, it will lead your life to a dark depressing hole.





    My friend, please make the right decision, and suppress those temptations.





    Good Night!
    You said you have mixed emotions, and you do not know what to do, and that you are a Christian and you do not want to go against your religion. Yet you have this strong feeling about your girlfriend, to be exact you said that your heart melts every time you see her,and although you l that way you have a boyfriend, and you do not feel that he make you feel like your girl friend does, This means that you have lesbian tendency and you wish to have your girlfriend for your self,but there is her boyfriend in the middle and can not approach her and tell here how you feel about her and that your mind want let you do it,cause if you do you feel guilty, of nessing up your boyfriend and hers, that is your dilemma. So my advice is please do not break up from your boyfriend for her and end up your feelings for your girlfriend

    Have you ever wished you could return to your childhood for just a day?

    I remember when I used to go over my grandma Louise's house and my uncle would play PC games with me. We would play Total Annihilation (with The Core Contingency and Battle Tactics), Carnivores, Total Annihilation: Kingdoms, Planet Hot Wheels, Civilization II (with Conflicts in Civilization and Fantastic Worlds), Descent (with Levels of the World), Descent II (with Vertigo Series), Descent FreeSpace: The Great War, RuneScape (we only played this a few times), Star Wars: X-Wing versus TIE Fighter, and various other games. We would also watch movies in his basement, I remember when we used to watch the first Alien movie. I was like 8-12 when we used to do this stuff. I remember when we went to a baseball game that was sponsored by his work and there was like this festival thing before the baseball game that was for employees (and friends and family) of his work only, I had so much fun. We used to do all this awesome stuff together and I looked up to him as a role model, and I used to spend the night at grandma's house like every other weekend. He even got me into a community college at the age of 13, where I still attend schooling at (separate from the two high schools and one junior high school that I currently attend; what can I say, I guess I'm a prodigy). He also taught me how to SCUBA dive (he is a professor at the college and one of the classes he teaches is SCUBA). He also took me to World War II reenactments, where I got to dress up as a n American (or was I British, I forgot) soldier and got to use a real gun (blank adapted). He also taught me how to fire a real gun. But now my uncle and like never do anything. I'm 17 now and we haven't really hung out like we used to (which is explanatory since I'm a teenager and have been for several years so now I'm more interested in girls, hanging out with friends, the SS Free, Facebook, computers, and video games, than spending time with family members). But I kind of miss doing all that fun stuff with my uncle, now I have torn him away from me too, just like I have torn everyone else who cares about me away. I tore my parents away (we never talk unless we are arguing or yelling at each other), I don't want to do anything with them (obviously), I don't even want to be seen with them in public (what teenager does). The only people I had were my friends, but even then I partially blew that when I fell in love with my best friend and she didn't love me back, which I am still recovering from). Do you ever wish you could just go back to the simple times of your childhood, just for like a day?Have you ever wished you could return to your childhood for just a day?
    Although it's not gonna happen, I've wished.

    Should i ask my best friend out? (were both girls im 13 and shes 11)?

    shes my bestest friend ive had a crush on her for 2yrs now and everytime i see her my feelings just keep getting stronger and stronger. I think bout her 24/7 non stop i dream about her i dream of kissing her,saving her,protecting her etc. I make a big fuss if ive done something wrong i would do anything for her and i mean anything.everytime i look into eyes i see truth loviness, shes like an angel, my names Rochana and her name is Isabella. we used 2 play with each other eveyday for a yr and a bit and now i moved 2hrs away but i allways make the effort to see her shes like my light from darkness. i dont know what i would do without her, but im so in love with her im afraid of telling her how i feel, but shes really understanding,helpful,caring,loving,pure hearted. on the last day that i lived in the street i slept over at her house and we had to share the same bed,her feet kept touching my legs,and when i woke up at 5 in the morning she was on top of me and wouldnt get off me. she gives me hugs everytime i go shes allways so happy 2 see me,and everytime we touch like holding my hand when were on the ripstiks and helping me up when i stack it. but should i ask her out? should i tell her how i fell about her? it just bugs me everyday that i dont have the courge to tell her,how will she react? what will she say?she likes to follow me alot and wrrys bout me heaps and sits really close to me. ive never ever felt this way bout anyone. so plz plz give me your wise advise people. and i see her quite offtenShould i ask my best friend out? (were both girls im 13 and shes 11)?
    You guys are really young. I know I can't know how you feel, and no one knows what she's thinking but her, but I think you should wait. Your so young, and at that age its normal for girls to have feelings like that, but she is also at a very different place then you are. A lot of her behaviors that you described sounded a lot like her looking up to you. My best friend is two years older then me also, and at that age I fallowed her around and I wanted to be just like her. Bringing something that huge to the table would be a lot for her to think about and she might not really know what to do. I think if you really love and care about her you should wait until its the right time for both of you to decide how you feel, a time when you can fully understand your emotions. For now just enjoy the bond you have, enjoy each other :).Should i ask my best friend out? (were both girls im 13 and shes 11)?
    you are probably still a little too young for a lesbian relationship, i know that you have a right to be that way, but what will the kids think at school? just wait a few years and see how things turn out.
    No do not ask her to go out with you. Instead talk to your parents and if that's too embarrassing try talking to a guidance counselor about your feelings. Your thirteen you are confused not lesbian.
    i say do what you want to do, ask her out or dont its as simple as that....
    ummm nooooooo your way to young and plus she might never talk to you agian after that!!!!
    no.


    you shouldn't be trying to turn a 11 year old gay.


    you just miss her is all.
    thats kind gross. try to become straight instead.
    well if she likes girls too, then yes i think you should! but if she doesnt then just dont say anything!!!! i understand cause no one can control thier feelings! good luck to you!!!!
    I don't think you should. First of all, you are not old enough to make the decision of Homosexuality. You should wait until you are older. But If you feel really strong, then you can do it.
    awww, thats so cute. just tell her how u feel. it'll b okay...
    first off find out if she is a lesbo or not lol or you would freak the hell out of her or she just think it a girls hang out day lol not really a date like u intended to
    whats wrong with you girl u only 11 and u gay u nasty..u a girl and i dont have a problem with gay guys but lesbos r nasty
    ewwwww!!!


    First off, you're 13, thats illegal for you to be gay.


    and second, it's wrong, gross, and totally a sin.





    Don't you want kids one day?
    ok. so i see what your saying. it seems to me she likes you too. you should just tell her. If she really was your best friend she wouldnt really care. also if she liked you back i bet it would make her REALLY happy!!!

    In love and its really messed up?

    So okay...I fell in love with my best friend and told them. I'm a girl and so is she. We use to cuddle all the time and even kiss each other on the forehead and cheeks and we'd hold hands too. Sometimes she'd stare into my eyes and she'd smile and her eyes would change color..It was really weird and it made me get butterflies in my stomach. Anyways, I told her that I use to be love with her - just to test the waters - but that I was over her now. She seemed fine with it..Then she started asking me all these questions about how I felt and why I felt that way. I told her that everything about just simply amazed me and that I couldn't really explain it. She got all blushy and could barely contain herself - she kept smiling and saying that no one had ever felt that way about her and that it was kinda nice.





    Shes in a relationship with someone and they're living together. Anyway, that night he came home and me and her were sitting on the floor. She had a piece of hair in her face and I brushed it out of the way. The next night she called me and I wasn't home. When I got home I called her back and she said that she thought I was avoiding her. I said, ';Why would I be avoiding you.'; Than she confronted me and asked if I still had feelings for her. I admitted that I did, and she said that she thought we needed space. She called almost everyday crying and saying that she missed me so much but that we couldn't hang out.





    Eventually we started hanging out again, but now things are really different. She told me that the reason she was so touchy and emotional and physical with me was because she was seeking in me, what she didn't have with her boy friend. I felt very used and hurt when she said this. Now she keeps telling me shes busy all the time and do anything. But tonight she called and said she wanted to do something, then she called back and said she couldn't. I'm so confused.





    What does she really feel in your opinion?In love and its really messed up?
    soooo shes bi? lol im assuming that. she's super confused. she prob wants to stay with her dude but now that she knows how u feel... maybe she feels like she's in a way cheating on her dude. therefore she's putting some distance btwn u and her.





    shes also realizing that she doesn't want to lose you as a compainion thats y she's staying in touch. but being so ';flaky'; about it. if you really do like her. give her the space she wants and see if she changes her mind. but my advice give it a ';proper'; amount of time. don't wait forever on sumtn that may not happen.
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    Ok, so you know how in alot of movies the girl/guy starts to really like his/her best friend, and in the end of course everything turns out perfect. Well I wanted to know, what would YOU do if you suddenly fell in love with your best friend??Movie Love?
    I would wanna be cautious ,a friendship is very important especially with your best friend i wouldn't wanna screw up the relationship but if you like him give him or her little hints and hopefully everything will fall into place.Movie Love?
    My best friend is another woman...





    But if I fell in love with a good guy friend, it wouldn't be ';sudden';, and since I'm in a relationship now, I'd probably be single until I figured out what I wanted.
    kiss him then tell him
    if he is your bf you should be cool enough to taalk about how you feel.
    just go with it...if its meant to happen it will
    Hun,Your love is supposed to be your best friend ! That is biblical. Say thank you Jesus !!!

    I think ive fallen out of love with him?

    I've been with my partner almost 2 years, the first year was amazing but during the second year we split up for 3 months or so and in that time I started to see someone else who I grew close to and I fell in love with him. It didn't work out and eventually I got back with my ex. the problem is now that I still love the other person I was with even though we was only together a few month we was really close, i love my current boyfriend so much but i worry its more like a best friend because he as helped me so much and through some difficult times in my life but I don't feel physically attracted to him I really feel as though he is my best friend. I cant bring myself to tell him this because I know he loves me so much.. I cant help these feelings for this other person I don't know how to get rid of them and bring back them feelings for my boyfriend if that's even possible. any advice? thank you so much for your answers :) xI think ive fallen out of love with him?
    Why don't you just go with the other guy. You have feelings for him and you don't feel that way towards your boyfriend anymore. Remember, you can't force feelings for your boyfriend.I think ive fallen out of love with him?
    I'm dealing with the same thing...It's really hard breaking up with someone who likes you sooooooooo much and they've done nothing wrong to you, even though you don't like them in return. Just tell him how you feel. It'll hurt him much less in the long run if you break it off now and hurt him rather than later and hurt him even worse.
    Don't play with the dude's head...go on with your own life if you don't care for him, b/c the deeper it gets, the worse it will be for him...
    omg we should talk i almost the same exact prolbemmmmmmmmmmmmmm XD it sucks so much

    Does my cousin/best friend feel the same way I do? Is he gay or bi?

    Okay this is going to be very long and twisted, but I need help. Okay so just some info about me: I'm 16, bisexual, and yes I'm in love with my cousin (guy), I know it's very odd but I don't care what other people think I didn't chose to fall in love with him, it just happened. Please if your going to be rude and judge me, don't even answer or read this.





    So anyway, I just came out to my best friend about being bi and how I feel about my cousin and she totally understands and I love her for that. You need to understand I've been going to school and with my cousin since I was little and we think of eachother as friends rather than cousins. I have had quite a few experiences with him that back up my belief of him being gay or bi %26amp; into me. I need help on how to see if he's into me because I can't take this any longer.





    So here's what happened. He was at my house and we were laying on my bed in my room, and he jumped on top of me and we started dry humping. He even said, what if your sister walked in on us. So he was insinuating we were doing something wr shouldn't be doing right? He showed me his junk, I showed him mine, and we kept playing with eachothers butts. We shared a bed on vacation, and when everyone was asleep we were acting like we were having sex.





    He constantly grabs my but, he grabs my junk sometimes, and he texts very flirty. We both have different friends but were so much alike. We played sports our whole life and we like the same music and tv shows, and I honestly hate that I let myself fall for him. I can't get over him so please don't tell me to! I need to know how to get him to come put because I'm 99 percent sure he's gay/bi. He won't come out if I ask him because I know I woodnt either. How do I make him come out and does he like me?! He's very touchy with me and he's had one girfriend in 7th grade and he tells me he doesn't want a girlfriend too. He's never kissed a girl and he's like a football jock. Please help me figure this out!





    He acts totally straight, he doesn't hang with any girls just guys. I just want to approach him but I don't know how because there's that chance that might be straight.





    %26amp; how do I make a move on him even if he may be straight without him flipping **** and telling my whole family and ruining my life?!Does my cousin/best friend feel the same way I do? Is he gay or bi?
    invite him over for a sleep over steal some of your parents wine and get him tipsy..when it's time to go bed tell him you will give him a foot massage..then start succking on his toes...by then he meat will be ready for your mouth....good luck...Does my cousin/best friend feel the same way I do? Is he gay or bi?
    show him boobs and if he gets all drooly and hard hes straight, then show him a penis and see his reaction to that, then it will be obvious :T
    There is no way he won't flip out on you. He's your COUSIN! That is sooo not acceptable. Leave him alone %26amp; find someone else.
    There's nothing worng with liking your cousin even if it's your first cousin just saying but I think thats pretty hot lol. I'm bi too and 16 and I luv my cousin from Australia he's so hot and he's not technically my cousin but anyway invite him over to your house and you know do that flirty stuff that he does and flirt with him if he likes it and starts doing sensual things again then take it further and tell him hey I like you is that cool? If he says he likes you too than have fun :) but if he backs away then tell him you were kidding and you were just joking then good luck from there :D
    Dear Cousin,





    Break free of the stereo-types.





    The thing is right in front of you... trust what you see with your own eyes. Heck, trust what you feel! If he has his hands on your junk... if he is humping you... if you are looking at each others stuff, then for goodness sake Carpe Diem! Seize the Day!





    You guys have gone beyond coming out to each other. When you are in bed together touch, feel, hug, kiss, get off! You don't have to discuss it or define it... go with the flow! You have the perfect situation as far as I can see... he crossed the line for you... keep him there!





    Jocks are gay too! You don't have to say you are ';gay'; just say you really enjoy what you are doing. If he has it out... give him the pay-off. Tell him how nice it is to feel his body... how good he makes you feel. Respond with your body.





    Later you can sort out everything. Maybe this is just some simple exploration... maybe both or one of you will lead a hetero life and just keep these fond memories. But there is nothing unnatural about two friends or cousins sharing, exploring, and being very personal/intimate with each other.





    For now, go with the flow. He seems to be the more aggressive, so if he wants to talk it over, I think he will start the conversation. Give it time... you don't have to have only one single conversation. Take it bit by bit.





    Enjoy life and don't rush to come to conclusions so early in your life. You are young... when we are young we always want to get to the end right away --';are we there yet?';-- but when you get a little older you will relish the journey more than the destination.





    Poco a poco!





    I wish I was there to watch over you guys... I bet it is going to be great.





    Good Luck!





    ~K

    Can somebody just Hear me out? Please.?

    Have you ever felt so alone? Or have you ever actually sat down and cried for what seems like nothing at all? I have been struggling trying to find who i really am. I have learned friends will sooner or later let you down. I have fallen in love with my best friend jenny... I have become bisexual. Is this me though? Do I fit in this world anymore? To me i wish i was never alive. I wish jessica didn't feel so hurt because of what i have become. I'm sorry jessica. I miss you, and what we were. I have been a bad friend as you say. Ive left you scars as you say. But what did I really do? I am here for you. I love you, I lost you as a friend just for my cutting addiction. You will never understand. I am NOT asking you to understand. I just want somebody to listen to me... you always misunderstood me. We were sunshine and princess. The best of friends... What happened? AFter god took your grandma's helpless beautiful soul, you've become different. it also affected me as a person. i didn't know how to cheer you up. Although I remember I tried everything just to see you smile. I am crying. I've lost the most important people in my life. God, who am i? Why must you destroy me... I scream to the dark shadows following me everyday. I want to die. Just get the hell out of every body's life. Everything will be better if I just disappeared. I guess since you were in much pain jessica, i've longed for a friend... to help me with my problems too. Jenny came in the picture, yet she leaves me flat on my face. Jessica you are my best friend ... destiny just made me love jenny. Don't hate me for the person I've become... I'm so sorry.





    No one will understand me. Guys bring me down hurt my feelings... judge way too much. Girls don't do that. They're way down to earth... [some] so this is also why i'm bisexual.





    Has anybody Felt the way I do? trying to find yourself as a person waiting to come out?





    Can somebody just hear me out... Since the real me has finally spoken.











    I wrote this in my journal today, what'd you think of it. How'd it make you feel inside?Can somebody just Hear me out? Please.?
    sad sweetie, just sad


    my vote is find yourself a guy who wont judge you and leave your pretty little wrists alone


    I know that girls are easier to relate to


    that's why we pick them to be our best friends, but guys bring in a special aspect, one that you just cant get anywhere else, they leave you with that giddy feeling inside that you wish you could keep forever and to tell you the truth, they are the ones that don't always try to please, girls always want to be the best - but guys are willing to be exactly what you don't want, they need that bit of proof that says you don't need them to be perfect for you to love them, cause loving someone who isn't and doesn't try to be perfect is the easiest way to forgive yourself for being the same wayCan somebody just Hear me out? Please.?
    I am not a being flippant jerk when I say you need help that is beyond my ken. Seek professional help, if not for you then for those you love. Trust me you need more than yahoo answers can give. A professional therapist can do wonders. Give it a chance.:)

    Im in the middle of a one-way love problem and i need advice.Please!?

    I KNOW THIS IS A REALLY LONG DETAILED QUESTION BUT PLEASE READ IT CAUSE IM BEGGING FOR ADVICE!!!!


    Ok just to let you all know im only a 13 year old girl.I just wanted to say that cause that might affect the answer y'all give me.Okay. One of my best guy friends is the perfect guy! His name is Gunnar and hes been my best friend for like 6/7 months. I had fallen for him about a month after becoming friends with him and at that time i only liked him.The way he acted around me got me wondering if he liked me to because he would always talk to me and always hugs me and hes also kinda perverted but hes one of those pervs who doesn't go to far and is just joking about all of it and doesn't end up getting punched in the stomach or kicked in the balls.He is so funny and when he sees me sad he tries to make me laugh and he always does! Every time he makes me laugh i forget about all problems in my life and actually start having a good time!We only see each other on fridays though cause we both go to a youth church for middle schoolers.So anyways one friday i told him how i felt but he said he didnt feel the same way and he only likes me as a very good friend and i waz crushed but i mean at least hes friends with me! And some guys, after you tell them how you feel they get all awkward and dont act the same way or even worse sometimes they'll make fun of you, but Gunnar isnt like that! After it waz a little awkward at first but he pulled me aside and said not to be awkward about it cuz he didnt want that to ruin the good friendship we have.So eventually it was like nothing had never happened! But as the months went by I never seemed to get over my crush.I ended up thinking about him every second,of every minute,of every day! Literally! Then i started dreaming about him and everything anybody said somehow made me think about him! My mom brought up a dog who had crystal blue eyes and i thought about how Gunnar has all black hair and wears all black clothes but isnt gothic at all and he has very pale skin but then his eyes ar just crystal blue and they look like there glowing and there just so beautifull and amazing! Then every friday I was so exicted cause i waz going to be seeing him and then when it was all over i went crazy wanting to see him again! I wanted to be with him every day! I relized I was falling in love wth my best friend! (And a lot of you people might be like a 13 year old cant be in love she probally doest even know what love is! Well everything i just told you people and more stuff that would take to long to write is definitly love and if you dont think so then your crazy! no offense!) But yeah, anyways, Its been about 7 months since i told him i liked him and i still do make it very obvious but he said something last friday that made me think. A girl in our small group session was like Will you be my best friend and Gunnar was like Sure Ok??! And i said (joking around) No one can resist you Gunnar! And he said you used to not be able to resist me. USED! I was going to say i still cant but i couldnt get the words out of my mouth! But it got me thinking for the rest of the week ';Does he think i got over him?';. So Today wich is friday i was going to ask him if he thinks i dont like him anymore but he ended up not coming! I almost cried! Yeah i know im pathetic! But i need advice on what to say to him next week cause the way he acts is crazy he gives me his jacket when im cold,He makes me laugh when im sad,He gives me about 23 hugs every friday night,Sometimes buys me coke if im thirsty and have no money,Always site next to me in service,Gives me compliments sometimes,Tickels me!, Pops of put of nowhere and goes hey babe!, when i get up of my chair in the zone (thats what the place is called after service its wear we have fun and play dogeball and hang out) he will take my chair and when i come back he says sit on my lap,If i walk away to talk to my friend tyleah he stops talkin to his friends and comes over to talk to me and so on...........BUT THEN HE SAYS HE DOESNT LIKE ME!!!! He acts like it but says he doesnt and im soooooo confused and i dont know what to do!!!! Please help!


    (And by the way last time i asked a ques i got answers that critizied my problem! so please dont do that....and if your a adult dont say im to young to be in love and you dont even know what love is and you should live your life out and not date till your older! I GET IT! i get told that by my parents enough i dont need it told to me by strangers! Not to rude or anything. so i just need advice and if you are an adult just think about when you were a teen and what you wouldve done in my position.)


    (And im sorry if some of this is in text language its a habbit of mine!)Im in the middle of a one-way love problem and i need advice.Please!?
    how can you write that much?
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    I kiss Patrick goodbye as I promise to be safe and call him when I get to my hotel, for all the years I known him I just cant see anyone else as such a good friend as he is. His backstreet boy hair was always in perfect place, his eyes always loving no matter how he felt about the moment. He was always the brother I never had, he was a bit bulky, he always had that muscle but a little chubby boy was still there. He was loveable. Simple as that, the brother I never had; my lovable brother that never left my side. As I walked away I blew a kiss and told him “I love you, always! I’ll call you when I get to the hotel” Then blew him my last kiss before I turned the corner.


    He blew a kiss back and waved “I love you to Katie!” and he knew then and there he had to get ready. Ready to begin his life, ready to start his life with the best friend he loved.


    As I got onto the plane I called my mother, father, and sister to let them know my flight was about to take off and I’ll call them when I land. Told them each I love them and talk to them soon. They said it back; I texted Patrick to let him know I was through security and thanked him for the ride to the airport. As they shut the door, I turned my phone off, and put my seatbelt on. As I ordered a shot of tequila on the plane I started to relax my muscles, and fell asleep.


    I woke up to the flight attendant announcing our landing and to make sure to keep all cell phones off till the flight has come to a complete stop. Nobody really listens, everyone got out their cell phone to make sure everyone they knew that they were ok. I was on a personal trip, I thought I would wait till after I got my baggage and got a cap would be a good time to call my mother, father, and sister back to let them know everything was ok. Next I would call Patrick.


    “Hey Honey, how was it?” he said happily.


    “It was ok, was asleep till we landed, did you know tequila; well one shot of tequila was five bucks? Crazy I know but worth it. I’m just not unpacking my things in the Hotel, its amazing.” I wanted to let him know every detail, that’s just how we are. I love telling him everything; but right now I was just happy to be away from everything.


    “What! That is crazy, so want to call me back after you are settled in there Hun?” he said very generously.


    “Yeah, that would be great. I’m just going to finish unpacking; and shower. Then go find something to eat. I love you Patrick.” I said as if I said anything else to him, my best friend. The one person I could never afford to loose.


    “Alright, I love you, too. Bye.” Click.


    I unpacked my things and got my purse ready, lipstick, gloss, Chap Stick, wallet, cell phone, tanning lotion, map of Miami, and a pen. I got my toiletries out and into the bathroom, along with my hair straighter. I turned it on high, and I turned the shower on and got in; letting my thoughts empty out as if the warm steaming water were washing everything away.


    I got out and wrapped my hair up in the towel, a habit I picked up from my mom when I was about 13 years old. I put my cloths on; I choose a pair on lazy jeans, not too tight, but tight enough to see my curves. I also choose my yellow shirt. It shows my back, its also loose so its not sucking all the air out of my body like those models. I also choose to wear a pair of bright yellow chucks. I know I don’t really fit into the club scene but hey, at least I am getting out.


    I put some make up on, mascara and some Chap Stick with a clear gloss. Then a tiny bit of blush to look natural on my ivory skin; I walked into the bathroom to finish up my look, as I straightened my hair I heard my cell phone ring. I walked to my purse digging for my cell phone. I look at the caller ID and it was my ex boyfriend Steven.


    “Hello.”


    “Hey Katie, I need to ask something.” he asked.


    “And that might be what?” with a hint of attitude.


    “Are you still friends with Patrick?”


    “Yes, that was simply the stupidest question you’ve ever asked me”


    “Ok well sorry I bothered you then, I’ll talk to you later.”


    “Weirdo, bye” Click.


    Steven was my first boyfriend. Our relationship is the type where you still care but they bug the living hell out of you. He always seemed jealous of Patrick for some odd reason, I mean Patrick is amazing and all but I don’t see him like that. Besides, who else would be there for me when jerks like him hurt me? The one who lets me lay on his bed when times are rough and lets me spill my guts out when he slowly rubs my leg with his hand while my feet are propped up on his lap. It’s how friendship should be, kisses on the cheek, I love you, and crazy nights spilling our guts out to each other just to feel better.


    But Steven is just a weirdo to me; I giggled thinking of all the weird things he use to do. Call and say hello, then goodbye. Just wanted to hear my voice I always guessed; he also use to always use to kiss me every time I looked at him. Then he would ask me stupid questions likJust a section out of my writing, tell me your opinion. Part of a story im writing and want peoples opinion.?
    Just a little helpful advice from on aspiring writer to another. Though it may be tempting to ask for feedback on the internet, it’s never a good idea for a multiple reasons. For one thing, the public can often be very harsh. And that is magnified when you put in online. People can say horrible things, and I would hate to see you loose your passion because some jerk punched it out of you. Second, people are thieves. If you post something really good online, anyone who knows how to copy %26amp; paste may steal it. And lastly, you may loose your momentum if you ask for feedback before you are finished.


    If I were you, I would at least post this on a writing website where other writer’s can help you and it might be better protected.Just a section out of my writing, tell me your opinion. Part of a story im writing and want peoples opinion.?
    umm its ok. work on the grammar though. :]