My best friend has found someone better, i dunno wat to do?

im 16 and ive been best friends with my friend amber for 2 years. we always were able to tell each other anything... and im a guy but i only think her as a best friend. nothing more. a couple months ago, this guy named seb moved here from south america. hes a nice guy were friends, amber practically fell in love with him. they hang out like 4 times a week now. she likes him a lot but he thinks of her as a ';best friend';. he uses her for sex booze and weed and she just lets him... he knows how much she likes him and he just uses her and now me and amber barely hang out anymore other than drivers ed. the only time it seems she wants to hang out anymore is when were going to a party. yesterday we were planning to go to party, but i was very close to having alcohol poisoning on friday, i was puking for 8 hours and my skin went numb, i still can't eat wat i want. and she was like ';wtf! your not going to the party?'; and i was like of course not.. i can barely move. so wat does she do? she goes to seb's house instead, there always together. i feel bad because i told her my deepest secrets. ive been depressed for the last couple of months and ive turned to cutting pills and drinking, i think about suicide everyday and my mood can change with in the hour, when it does i feel like i cant trust anyone and i feel alone. i told her all this, she said she wud hang out with me more and try to make it better. nothing has changed... i really dont think she cares. i cant believe she wud rather hang out with a guy that uses her for sex and drugs, when i wud do anything she asked and ive always been loyal and honest. what can i do???My best friend has found someone better, i dunno wat to do?
You sound like a good guy and it sounds like she doesn't deserve you. But of course you must have had an amazing friendship that you don't want to lose over some guy. If he is as much of an idiot as you say, it's probably inevitable that eventually he'll let her down, and when he does, you just have to make sure that you're there for her, like you would like her to be for you.


Meanwhile, try hanging out with different people and try to just have a good time, it's easier said than done, but try and stay as far away as possible from pills and excessive drinking as these are probably only adding to the emotion. Seek help for this.


If you're as much of a good friend as you sound like, then she'll probably realise this, and come back to you, and if she doesn't, she's not worth it anyway.


I'm sorry you have to go through this, but things will improve, good luck (:My best friend has found someone better, i dunno wat to do?
hang in there - she'll eventually see his true colors and if anything learn to appreciate the genuine friendship you offer her
I think


you should go and find


a better friend because she is not a real


friend so go out and find a new friend that


will be a good friend :)
hey man i gota tell u straight up


YOU CANNOT LET ANOTHER PERSON CONTROL UR LIFE ITS UR LIFE


if she wuz ur bestfriend then she wudnt b doin this crap to u..do u rele think a best friend of urs wud do this? and besides if she comes bak to u how do u think things will b? will u b tha guy instead screwin her? cut off tha drugs, look for anothr friend nd ther ull b good
First, I'm sorry you're going through all this. I have a guy friend (I'm a woman) who I was friends with for years. We both were party people, but eventually he wanted to party all the time, and I didn't. It's possible your friend is changing, and it has nothing to do with you. Maybe she likes the party lifestyle and you don't, I don't know. I also used to be a cutter, and depressed, and suicidal which is a feeling I wouldn't even wish on my own enemy. I don't want you to get your feelings hurt anymore than they already are, but realize your friend might just be going through a phase in her life where she is hurting too, but instead of cutting is doing drugs with this new guy. Sadly, there's not much you can do besides stay as the loyal friend you are and try to keep in touch. She probably needs you as much as you need her, even though it doesn't feel like it right now. Me n my guy friend still talk, but we just grew apart, I hope you two can work it out.
u really like her as friend man. it seem like it.. but some how need to stop that guy . without letting her know. and just b loyal like u are too her. just show her that how that guy using her and ur not using her. try to show all ur positive points . and when u guys go out . make that moment enjoyable. dont let her think that u r making her board . so even next time she dont that she didnt have enjoyable day. thier is nothing else u can do about it. i mean u cant push her to go out, and dont even do that too, just b nice . and even talk nice to her about that guy ( her bf) but while u talking nice about him mix liltle bad thing about him just and example..%26gt;%26gt; hey ur boy friend is really nice guy i seen him going to church everyday but i dont kno why was selling somthing to kids.. this is a mind trick. first she will feel nice about his about his bf after than she will think why hez selling somthing to kids.. that will stop her to think about him. i jus used that as exp.. ok .. but u seems like u truly love her.. and i am with love ppl.. lemme kno if i can help u. u can email me . i would love to help u. Email%26gt;%26gt; rickysingh@royal.net
stop worrying about it. she is going to do what she wants to do and it is no reflection of the type of person you are. let her do as she pleases... if she wants to hang with you she will but don't keep bugging her and don't let it get to you. live your life and stop drinking so much... seriously. it's just making you depressed.
you can first ask yourself why you want this person as a friend. she doesn't seem like she has her act together. you don't either. alcohol poisoning? suicide? over what? a girl who has no respect for you or herself? i am absolutely sure that you thought of her as a girlfriend, and now she dumped you. don't use that best friend excuse. nobody acts that way over losing a friend. face it. you loved her. you need to act like a man instead of doing what you're doing. no woman's worth crawling on the earth. good luck.
First of all don't commit suicide. You love her right? So make sweet ways to gain her heart. Court her in your best possible way. I know its hard because she have a boyfriend now but there's is still hope. Besides her bf now is not deserving for her. Go! Do your stuff, but look forward for any consequence that will happen. I am with the same situation before all i can think is i had done my best and done my stuff because i loved her. Godbless bro! you can do that all you have to do is trust yourself and don't lose hope.
As I feel alot of your pain don't!!!! don't do this, this one girl knows you and hangs out with that snotbag. Don't kill yourself. It solves nothing. If she's like that she obviously is so cruel and useless that she will go nowhere in life. You should stop doing these things. Suicide is understandable as a need when such a cruel thing happens.


There are more people in your life that can help you. Your parents, your family, people you trust. Tell them about this so that you can get out of this dark madness. If they can't help you, the only person you can rely on is yourself. I may be a 13 year old dude answering but I have nothing to do with your life, and if she wants to die out of hunger and thirst because her life is crashed and she's on the streets, this path is her choice. DON'T let death be your path. think of all the other people who would now be miserable and darkened without you in their life. your family, other friends and people that know you. I live in a town where EVERYONE KNOWS ME. If I commited suicide the whole freakin town would be in one building. Choose a path that is worthy for you, she isn't smart taking this path, please, please make the right choice for yourself and never think that you're useless now she's just one person that won't make it anywhere. Make the right choice.
Hey, u obviously like this girl, i no not as a lover but as a frend and she nos ur secrets and then she goes off with someone else, it hurts, i know wat it feels like.





Well, to be honest if i were u, give her a taste of her own medicine. It may seem difficult to just forget about her, but that is wat mite get her back. She then may get upset about u not being wif her. She'll come running back and ur frends.





But if u dont feel like doin that then im not sure wat u can do. Your not lovers so it shudnt be a problem, her havin a boyfrend. She may be ur best frend but u hav to let her hav a boyfrend.





She shudnt be selling weed realy and if u were her best frend i wud advise her to stop selling it, as a frend. This may show that u care about her and she may like ur advice.





Maybe try getting to her before this seb does and then she'll be wif u and if she went off as soon as seb came u no shes not a frend.





Very difficult subject to understand, but good luck with getting bak together.