You don't. I usually tell people to say how they feel, but in this case, you have, she has. Period. It may have been months ago, but The fact you have talked about it twice, and she gave you that lame answer tells it all. If you want to know for sure though, you can not ask her directly. I hate this but that is the way it is. I just would not suggest trying though.
If you are going to be direct, I would not go with what gottcha says, no offense gottcha, but the fact that you are a dude saying that will make you that wierd guy. Instead say
*her name* I like you a lot. If you have any feelings for me Give me a chance to show you it can work. plain, simple, and to the point.How to tell your best friend that your in love with them when you think that they dont feel the same?
Sounds to me she is gently trying to tell you she doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about her. I think you are stuck in the friend zone.
You could tell her but you run the risk of alienating her. If you want to take the chance Romeo, by all means-- just remember you will probably land on your own sword.
Well, I'm a girl and if I was the girl in this situation, I would want you to tell me the truth. If she doesn't feel the same way, she isn't going to make you feel lame about it. She's your best friend. She'll respect you for telling her the truth and hopefully won't let it effect your friendship. Good luck and I hope everything goes well.
xx
yikes thats a hard one, dude. Honestly, I think you have to confront her. I know this is gonna be repetitive but just flat out tell her you love her and tell her that you really want to be with her. I mean yes, it can screw up what ya'll have right now, but you need to take that chance and see if you can take it to the next level. Best of Luck.
you should tell her the way you feel i would say ';her name, i really like you, i think about you all the time and i really want to give us a try, i think that our relationship would work because you are the only one that i want to be with.';
that sounds good i hope it works
Thank you at least im not the only one who is in love with there best friend i mean seriously why do people generally think that it will ruin the relationship between y'all. just tell her the truth and Hope for the best or give it some time
dude! i am dealing with this at this exact moment!
i just told one of my bffs that i like him and hes confusing me..
im going to go for it tomorrow...
try it.i'll tell you how it goes.
鈾?good luck love
Don't push it. Either keep your mouth shut, or take off.
I've been there, and after all was said and done, she was in Cali and I'm in FL.
tell her NOW call her tell her dont wait till its to late. you'll never know until you tell her how madly in love you are with her. if she doesent feel the same way at least you can move on.
Let time go by, she will understand your feelings for her one day! Or perhaps, she's not ready for a relationship! I don't know but take things slowly! By the way, how old are you guys? 15- 20 years old?? =D
if you honestly love her and want to risk your friendship,
tell her and try it.
itll be worth knowing the truth then regretting it later if you didnt.
wait a little longer than ask again then give her a surprise dinner date if she doesn't like then looks like you are on your own.sorry. hope this helped.
do sweet little things to prove to her ur love for her is true.time willshow it all
trust me
u can do it
all e best!(=
Hey Michael,
As I see it, you have two choices. You can either just leave things the way they are, and preserve your friendship; or you can just tell her that you are in love with her.
If you tell her you're in love with her, you run the risk of loosing what sounds like a good friendship.
What ever you decide to do, just remember that some of the best relationships started with being friends.
I know I didn't really answer your question, but I'm not you. I can't tell you what the best thing to do is.
I hope, at least, I gave you something to think about.
ok well my brother went throught the same thing he had been friends with a girl and she said the same thing ... what he did was sat her down and talked to her and let her know how he felt and that if they were to date that nothing would change there friendship ... and they dated for 5 years had 2 kids together and they broke up but they are still as good as friends as they were back then ... but when you say that you have to mean that... i would just tell her how u felt .... and see what happens but i would take it slow!!!!
Unfortunately i found out that i shouldn't of gotten with my friend. and my sister had the same thing happen. dude if you really like the friendship, love it and embrace it. love her as a friend and respect that she might not want to lose a good thing, or she's not interested in you in that way. learn by listening to experienced people or by your own trail and error (at the expense of a really great friendship)
awh! i am in the SAME situation but with a guy! see if i was the girl i would want to know. but you already told her you liked her so i am not exaclty sure what to do. Normally i would say tell her. But i dont want you to ruin your chance to get to date her. Maybe do something on valentines day? or if her birthday is soon make her something like brownies or cookies and give them to her and just small stuff and just be a good friend and easy to talk to and there for her and she will start to fall for you too if everything is supposed to be that way and maybe just slip it out one day? im not sure. i hope this helps GOOD LUCK!
As much as you should tell her, it's alot better to keep that to yourself, it really puts a friend in a really awkward position if the feeling is not mutual and usually leads to a falling out, if you believe ';she'; feels the same though, ease her into a conservation and ask her if she's ever been in love before, if she does love you then she will most likely hint to it in a way you may recognize, if it's simply like another question to her, then leave it alone, forever. Sorry if you don't like the answer but thats just how it happens, good luck.
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