The problem is that I know for a fact that she doesnt feel the same way about me. She has another guy that she has been on and off with, and that she has told me repeatedly that she is sure she will end up marrying him. She really cares about him (she lost her virginity to him) and he has expressed that he feels the same way about her.
At the same time, friends have told me that she knows how I feel about her. It is better left unsaid it seems.
The odd thing of it all is that we spend so much time together it basically is equivalent to being in a relationship.
I know there isnt a clear solution, but Id appreciate anyone's advice. What do you do when you are in love with your best friend?
You know this happens more than you think. It will work itself out.What do you do when you are in love with your best friend?
sabotage their relationship this may seem harsh but you need to do it if you want to get with her. this is how whenever he screws up a little make it seem like a big deal and get her to think its a big deal to then when they break up most likely very harshly be there for her and then tell her how you feel 3 weeks after the break up and kaboooom you have won hahahaha(evil laugh)
i have the same problem but i'm younger and things aren't and things are on a younger scale. but i think you should tell her how u feel. but then if u do it might hurt the relationship. and u deff don't want 2 do that. so just take it day by day and myabe one day she will just fall in love with you so ust give her a lil bit of time!!
hmm. this is a tricky one.
well all i can tell you is. talk to her about it. i mean if you really feel
that strongly about it. Don't regret it for your whole life. just sit her down
and tell her how you feel. and if she doesn't feel the same way, then cut your losses. at least you still have a friend.
:]
Find a new girl OK?
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*shakes his head*
mate .. why wait.. get in there .. just tell her you love her .. so she knows .. gee let her marry a guy . and dont tell her you love her why.. .. so go and tell her now .. by the way good luck..
she isn't interested because you use words like ';incarcerated';
wow... ironically i was in the same situation where he felt that way w/me
Aww, i think that's cute, you should tell her. you never know what can happen.
if she ever breaks up with this guy, you will be the first person on her mind.
i think you need to let go. Sorry =(
you are in love obviously. you are almost always with her. keeping feelings to one's self is not always the best thing.
you need to release these feelings, but if she is in a relationship with that other guy, then now is not the best time to tell her..
there really is not a best time or worst time..the timing is in your own mind.
i have a guy best friend who is just like you. he likes me (i can tell) but i use to tell him all the time about a guy who i really cared about.
(he didnot want to hear about me and him) but i am with my best friend more than i am with the guy i really care about.
anyways, you might end up getting hurt when or if you tell her how you feel, but you are a man.
you say she does not feel the same way for you. but it is better to tell her and she knows how you feel than to keep it bottled up and you just want to tell her but she will never know and will never care.
my best friend, he told me like last year that he loved me a few times..it took a while to sink in but i think i love him back.
so tell her. i think it'll eventually sink into her system.
My advice for you is that, if you're 100% sure about the fact that she doesn't feel the same way as you, don't tell her. Like they say, it is better left unsaid. Why? Because if you tell her, not only you will have a pretty high probability that she turns you down, but also you might screw up your whole friendship.
But, if you feel a spark there, if you feel that sometimes she shows more than friendship towards you, maybe you can risk it. Risk telling her about your feelings.
It's a risk, especially if you guys are realyyy good friends.
But hey maybe she feels the same way but has been hiding it from you too.
Who knows?
Hope you make the right decison.
Good luck
x
You really need to tell the other person how you feel. I recently told my best friend I was in love with him (after hanging out with him almost everyday for 3 months) and he respected it. He didn't say he liked me back, but that was okay, because he wasn't scared off from it, and he didn't push me away. It just feels good to get it off your chest, no matter how hard it is. Don't hold back. I did at first, and I was literally shaking when I told him.
I know its hard, but you need to try and move on. Obviously it will take time but because she is in love with someone else, you can either sit around and wait or go out and find someone new to love. If you two are meant to be, it will happen on its own. Don't worry about that! But loving your best friend is difficult so know that it will take time to move on but in the end you'll still love her as your best friend, and you will love someone else as your girlfriend. It'll all work out :)
well, I'm assuming this is the only girl you spend this volume of time with... If she's happy with someone else, you should probably just let it all play out the way its supposed to. Be there to support her through the ups and downs in life, and maybe one day she will see that you are the love of her life, the only man that has been by her side all this time and loved her no matter what. But make sure not to wait around for her in the meantime! You MUST get out there and live your life as well! Maybe you will find someone else you care deeply for or maybe she will see how happy you are with someone else and realize what she is passing up. The thing to remember is Women don't accept what is readily available to them, the same way men don't.
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