In love with my straight best friend.?

This girl - she was my best friend through the first year in college. I remember, I used to spend more time at her place than at my own. I had feelings for her and was heartbroken when she fell for a guy and started spending all her time with him. But things didn't work out between them and they broke out in a couple of months. She has been single since.





We got back in touch around six months ago. She was amazing as ever and we started spending time together. It rekindled the feelings I had for her. And well, I was so caught up feeling great that I didn't realize I had fallen in love with her ... again.





She doesn't know I am gay. But she has a positive attitude towards homosexuality and supports gay marriages. I don't know how she'd react if she knew I had a crush on her. Of course, I don't want to do anything that will ruin our friendship. But I don't want to live my life thinking ';what if I had told her?';





So, does anyone have any ideas on how to approach this situation? Has anyone been in a similar situation? I would love to know your experiences. In love with my straight best friend.?
Well, my advice for anyone in this situation, gay or straight, would be to be totally casual about it.... Like next time she says something that you find amusing or funny, just say casually 'ya know, if you ever decide you're gay, let me know' or just look her in the eye and say 'I think you're gorgeous' and smile.





This way, she will get the hint but won't feel really pressured and if you're acting cool and not all heavy and deep, she will know that you're cool friends whether something happens or not. It will be up to her after that.





You need to be comfortable with who you are and let her see it. In love with my straight best friend.?
You answered half of your own question She is Straight, Do Not Tell her you are in love with her, I think you should tell her you are gay though, if shes your friend and has positive feelings about homosexuals then you shouldnt be affraid to tell her that, but if you tell her you are in love with her you will destroy your friendship forever
If you feel you must act on your emotions than I would suggest you start leaving her cookie crumbs. If she see's your crumbs and walks by and pretends she didn't see it then you know where she stands. But if she does pick up the crumbs then maybe she wants to nibble on your cookie. or maybe eat the whole thing. LOL , good luck
Sweetie, I know this might sound harsh......but dont do it.


I did the same thing (but my friend was bisexual), and I have always regretted it.


We are still friends, but I feel so bad inside. And so does she. She hasnt even introduced me to her girlfriend yet because she knows that it will hurt me.
%26gt;%26gt; If I were you..I will be true to myself ..just being me without pretensions..we must live our life to the fullest do whatever will makes us happy as long as were not hurting others or stepping onto others..were on the right track..remember that we only have one shot each day to make it better than yesterday and we cant return back the hands of time..Just go where your heart leads you for you to have no regrets in the end...wink
Ask her if she has ever been bi curious..


And go from there if she says yes..


If she says no, ask her if she would ever consider it


with the right person.


This conversation would go best over a few drinks.
Ask yourself this question, when you look back in years to come would you rather be sorry for something you did or for something you didn't do?
I'm a guy, and in the same situation with a straight male friend. Well, he claims he's straight as a tack, but one thing's for sure, he is definitely a metroseuxal, not that metrosexuality always correlates with homosexuality. Anyway, I told my friend that I was bi, over an online conversation one night. He seemed very supportive and I had feelings for him so I finally decided to tell him how I felt about him, which also occurred online. He was still very supportive. I asked if he'd ever try anything with me, and he told me he couldn't do it as he sees it wrong, a complete contradiction of what he told me before. He is a strong Catholic which doesn't help my cause. So we're still friends, but he's just not himself around me anymore, before I told him about my feelings for him. Still very friendly and all, but maybe a bit awkward around me. So I would tell her you are gay, and depending on her reaction and attitude after that, decide whether to profess your feelings to her. It will feel heaps better to get it off your chest in my opinion.





Best of luck
OK, first you need to come out to her. Even IF, she were interested in you, at this point she doesn't even know you're a lesbian. See how she reacts to this news, some straight people are ok with the ';idea'; of things but reality takes a bit to get used to. When you're sure everything is good still between you both, no strangeness and such then you're ready for the next part.





As a straight woman that's been in this situation before (having both male and female friends crushing on me) I have to say, if you haven't gotten the ';more than friends'; vibe from her then I would do one of two things....





1) move on and try and put your energy somewhere that it will be reciprocated. You deserve to find someone that thinks you are as awesome as you think they are.





2) be light about it but totally upfront. Don't use words like ';love'; and such but keep it non-pressured. Let her know that you've always had a little crush on her and that you hope you meet someone as wonderful and easy to be around as her. Tell her she sets the bar pretty high as far as girls go it's rare to meet someone you feel so good to be around. This gives her both an in and an out, so to speak. If she feels the same way she has an opportunity to act on it and if not it's still friendly and without pressure from you.





It'll work out for you either way. You'll either have your dream girl or be free to look for her with a clear mind. And hopefully be able to maintain your friendship with this special woman.
Yes i have had the same situation before but then i kind of turned bisexual. I am right now and i would have no problem if my friend told me that they loved me if i was gay or straight...you never know what could happen in life just go with it and do what your heart tells you. If you cant hear what your hearts telling you then it might just mean you have to listen a little closer and not let go. Move on with life, learn from you mistakes and never regret it and never be anything your not. It just makes life a lot harder if your trying to be someone your not. Sweetie just don't worry about it things should go alright for you ok? Trust me my friend had asked if i was gay or bi but i wasn't at the time yet i felt a strange attraction towards her and ever since we have been friend with benefits. I myself supported gay marriage even when i was straight and that because i think people should deserve to be happy however they are. Hope this helped a little bit hun. E-mail me and tell me what you are going to do okay. ( = %26lt;3
Well, if she has a positive attitude and suports gay marriage, I think she most likely wil feel flattered by your feelings, even if she can't go there. So, while it may be a bit awkward for a little while, I don't think it would be a real risk for your friendship.








And for what it's worth, when I first learned that my friend had a thing for me almost a year ago, I was suprised and felt a little wierd but I didn't stop wanting to be her friend.





Umm..actually, she's my wonderful girlfriend now! :)








And yes, I considered myself straight and believed in gay rights..so you just never know what may happen! Good luck and I wish you all the best :)