I am falling for my best friend. Help?

OK. Here goes nothing...


I've known this girl since the 3rd grade. (We're both seniors in high school right now.) We've been friends for God knows how long. But in the last year or so, I have started developing feelings for her and have this irking to be more than friends with her.


Well, during this year, we started to look at what schools we wanted to go to. I fell in love with a school right in the city and got accepted there with no problems. She loved a school close by, but it is really expensive, so she went looking around. She found this school like 2 hours away that was a lot cheaper, and it looked like she might go there. She confided in me though saying that she didn't want to move that far away and be separated from all her family and friends. I told her that my grandpa lives close to there so I would just drive up to see her and crash there, and she says something along the lines of, ';well, if you really wanted to see me that bad.'; During these few months though, I found myself getting closer and closer to her. I didn't want her to go. A few days ago, she told me she was going to school close to mine, and I was relieved. I thought that I was just afraid of losing her, but I can't get her out of my head.


She calls me ';brother'; sometimes, which I know can be the kiss of death in a situation that I am in. We hang out all the time, but it's usually with some others along with us. (About half the time to give a guess.)


Anyway, she's perfect for me. Smart, funny, beautiful (She's gonna be a Pharma-girl, guys. It doesn't matter to me, but I just wanted to give you a point of reference.), and most of all, I enjoy just being with her.


I've heard that the best thing that can happen in a relationship is to be in love with your best friend. I just want some advice on if you think that I should give it a chance, and if so, how do I do that without burning any bridges of still being friends with her. (Remember people, we've been friends for 10 years.)


I don't know what points are, but I think I can give 10 to the best answer. Thanks.I am falling for my best friend. Help?
You seem to be smart and level headed. (this comment is based on how well you have put it here.)


Just like you mentioned it here...just say it to her.


Be prepared for what ever the outcome is.


If she says yes, great.


If she says no, ask her to think over it as you have not thought about it over night. If it is a NO again, just move on. (I know it is easier said than done but that is how it is.)


If you do not ask 6 months down the lane be prepared to meet her boyfriend. You will regret at that point of not asking (today)





All the best, hope it works out for both of you.I am falling for my best friend. Help?
Make sure that she is in the same place as you.


She could see you in the friend zone. She finds you cool and comfortable to hang out with, but not in a long term relationship and sexual kind of way (well, it could develop if you guys were to date).





Because from your story, it sounds like she is not in the same place as you. You can still try and ask her out. She might say yes or no.





And yes, it would be really nice to fall in love with your best friend. Go and ask her to a date. She might not see you as a lover right now, but hopefully she might see you in a boyfriend view because right now she does not know that you are a possible bf material).
The answer to your question is making sure that you end on good terms if things don't work out.


As for giving it a chance or not; you should ask one of your good close friends that hangs out with the 2 of you if they think she has feelings for you. They would have a better idea then i do with the information you gave in the question. Then you would know if its worth taking the chance or not. Gl