My best friend starting to go out with my dream girl? And he knows it!?

So there is this girl that I have know for about 31/2 years now and since the first time I have seen her, i have fallen in love with her. at first we kind of liked each other, but she was going out with this one guy, so it was the typical 'If i wasn't going out with him, I would go out with you' deal. so we stayed just friends for the next couple months. Then she breaks up with the kid and is in an emotional wreck.. I'm there and she appreciates that I'm always there for her and always taking care of her, well basically being the 'guy' best friend that she has. So time goes by and were still friends but not that close any more because she got a new boyfriend. I mean, this girl can get any guy she wanted with a snap of a finger, just to put it that way with no exaggeration. So sum stuff happens and she is sent away because she is not in her studies,, I'm there for her going away party and everything, and i haven't seen her in days, and she is looking beautiful as always. Well her and her boyfriend stay together through it all, and hes a player and she doesn't even know it. Her mom sends her back to our hometown and she finds out that she has been cheated on. So now she comes to me for me to comfort her and to feel that she has someone that she can rely on any time of any day. we start hanging out and going to party's and stuff, and everyone thought that me and her were having a little 'something', but then she had a kickback at her house and it went wild. drinking and doing sum other things and we start having those emotional talks, drunk out of our minds. and sum stuff spills that I love her and all that, that everything that I have been doing for the past few months was for her to even notice me in a different way. Her best girl friend tells me that she only loves me as a best friend, and that she knows my best friend likes her and she doesn't like him either. During this all I realize that she was in her room with my best friend, but i didn't think of it much since her best friend told me that she didnt have feelings for him either. So im pretty devastated, for the first time in many many years. I mean i never shed tears, and on this occasion it all came out, that she was my serious first true love. im 19 and i kind of have a good idea now. So the week comes in and I kind of start getting my mind off things and start hanging out with friends more, and then i find out that she is starting to talk with my best friend..... I start sweating and I throw up a couple times. its just a horrible feeling knowing that your going to have to be dealing with that,, seeing that on a daily basis. i talk to my other friends and they say to talk to him and let him know how I feel, because he knows that I have loved her for the longest time. In reality I know that I should be happy for him, but it just kills... like he just stabbed me and is laughing. The worst is yet to come. Im going over to his house today to talk about it, hopefully something good will come out of it. I just dont know what else to do... help a brotha out!My best friend starting to go out with my dream girl? And he knows it!?
If your dream girl is going out with your best friend, then she is interested in HIM, sadly, not you. Its no body's fault because these things happen and ';in love and war all is fair'; as long as all the parties involved are single. What good would it do you if your best friend didn't go out with this lady, if still she is not interested in you? And, why is it o.k. for other guys to date her, and not your friend? Do you understand what I'm saying? If I were you, I wouldn't talk to him about this, as it is all pretty much defined. It seems to me that this lady is not meant to be more than your friend. If it is too hard for you, then walk away, both from her and your best friend and open your horizon to other possibilities with other ladies. You might even have the love of your life closer to you than you think and you haven't even noticed! I hope this helps and Good Luck!My best friend starting to go out with my dream girl? And he knows it!?
Tell your friend how you feel, then tell her how you feel.


OR


Chase after another girl, and be happy for him. [2nd ones a better option]
good for your friend


be happy for him
then he is not your best friend
tsk!tsk!
GOOD LUCK!!!
awwwwww. sad well just tell him that you like her and then..........
you wasn't for her as a bf, you was her comfort zone. you cheered her up when she was down then she finds another guy quickly. when this don't work out and she comes to you let her no you is not in her zone anymore and hopefully you will have someone.
scalp him and show it to her, it is the only way to gain respect
didnt read the whole thing, but kill ur frend watever it takes! jk accept it, u shoulda made a move long ago
Being that he's your best friend he should already know how you feel about her and the fact that he's still pursueing her, I think is a terrible thing for a best friend to do. That being said, if she's as amazing as you say she is he probably can't help himself. After all he's a teenage boy and we all know sometimes it's not the head that does the thinking when it comes to girls. Talking to him may or may not help, he might not want to pass up this opportunity for himself either. I would think it would be more important for you to talk to her. To tell her how you feel/have felt, yes you'd be putting yourself out there and that's very scarry, but for how long can you be the fall out guy that she turns to in times of need, I would think that would get real old real fast, to always be second best. Find out what she feels if it's nothing more then friends then decide if you can deal with that, at least you'll know not to be pinning away for something that will never happen. The physical torment that you're putting yourself through is not healthy, do you want to keep feeling that or would it be better to just throw it all out there take what comes and deal with it all at once instead of feeling the pain over and over again! Good Luck!
Yeah who cares what he does...


she's not the only chick in the world


You sound like a really nice guy even id


date you! If he does date her just move on! You're


young! You have you're life ahead of you! This can


be a stupid little drama story you can tell you're kids


when you grow up!
What your friend did was just awful dude. i couldn't imagine what your going through but i know that your hurting really bad. Yes, the best thing to do is to talk to your best friend about how you feel about her(in-case he forgot) , how you feel about them being together. You loved her and apparently she doesn't quite appreciate what you have to offer her. You just want to be there for her and never hurt her. i understand that and in the end she'd going to realize that she missed out on something great......when or if you become part of her past. Only time can tell for sure what's to happen but i know for a fact that i wouldn't be able to forgive either of them. But if you do forgive them and can deal with your dream girl and best friend together than your a better person than me.
Well, if you have not made any major moves to go out with her, then it's really your lose. She's not your possesion, you do not own her. If you're buddy wants to go out with her, well, so what. You're just jealous
I'm sorry but your friend is wrong. you obviously really like this girl and for him to know that and pursue her is shady... she is also a bit skanky for going after your friend knowing how you felt. they are both your friends and their is a certain code that friends must obey and if they can't obey it then drop both of them. he isn't your best friend and she doesn't deserve your friendship... let them be ';happy together'; and you move on from both of them. one day you will find someone who loves you as you love them and a best friend who respects your friendship and feelings.
You're both too young to worry about such things. Focus on your education (especially your grammar, yeesh.) Besides, in my experience, females don't have a clue until at least twenty five if they're lucky. She's just not into you, and probably won't ever be, you're just not her type. Harsh, yes. Be happy for your bff and keep on lookin'.





Ancient Chinese proverb also say... ';bro's before ho's.';





(and take it easy on the drinking and partying kiddo)